When you make people feel better about themselves, you also feel better about yourself.
"A library, to modify the famous metaphor of Socrates, should be the delivery room for the birth of ideas-a place where history comes to life." -- Norman Cousins
"Adversity has the effect of eliciting talents which, in prosperous circumstances, would have lain dormant." -- Horace
"Anyone who has never made a mistake has never tried anything new." -- Albert Einstein
"As I grow older, I pay less attention to what men say. I just watch what they do."
"At the end of each day, you should play back the tapes of your performance. The results should
either applaud you or prod you."
"Dare to risk public criticism."
"Develop a bias for action, a sense of urgency, to get things done."
"Disgust and resolve are two of the great emotions that lead to change."
"Don't be afraid to give your best to what seemingly are small jobs. Every time you conquer one
it makes you that much stronger. If you do the little jobs well, the big ones tend to take care of
themselves." -- Dale Carnegie
"Don't say, 'If I could, I would.' Say, 'If I can, I will.'" -- Jim Rohn
"Duty makes us do things well, but love makes us do them beautifully."
"Evaluation of the past is the first step toward vision for the future."
"Every farmer knows that you can't sow and reap on the same day. There is a timetable for
your harvest that requires both working and waiting. Patience is a small price to pay for what
you will receive." -- Neil Eskelin
"Every man should periodically be compelled to listen to opinions which are infuriating to him.
To hear nothing but what is pleasing to one is to make a pillow of the mind."
"Expect the best, plan for the worst, and prepare to be surprised." -- Denis Waitley
"Failure is not a single, cataclysmic event. You don't fail overnight. Instead, failure is a few
errors in judgment, repeated every day." -- Jim Rohn
"Fear; if allowed free rein, would reduce all of us to trembling shadows of men, for whom only
death could bring release." -- John M. Wilson
"Good people are found not changed. Recently I read a headline that said, "We don't teach
people to be nice. We simply hire nice people." Wow! What a clever short cut."
"Happy the man who has broken the chains which hurt the mind, and has given up worrying,
once and for all." -- Ovid
"Here's the philosophy of the rich and the poor. Poor people spend their money and invest
what's left. The rich invest their money and spend what's left. Think like the rich--invest your
money first, then spend what's left."
"I destroy my enemies when I make them my friends."
"I had six honest serving men - they taught me all I knew: Their names were Where and What
and When and Why and How and Who."
"I not only use all the brains that I have, but all that I can borrow." -- Woodrow Wilson
"I will love the light for it shows me the way, yet I will endure the darkness for it shows me the
stars." -- Og Mandino
"Internalize the 'Golden Rule' of sales that say, 'All things being equal, people will do business
with, and refer business to, those people they know, like and trust.'"
"Knowledge might be power, but only when you take action." -- Richard Keeves
"Managers help people see themselves as they are; Leaders help people to see themselves
better than they are."
"Many of life's failures are people who did not realize how close they were to success when they
gave up." -- Thomas Edison
"Never begin the day until it is finished on paper." -- Jim Rohn
"No matter what age you are, or what your circumstances might be, you are special, and you
still have something unique to offer. Your life, because of who you are, has meaning." -- Barbara
De Angelis
"Nothing will kill a sale faster than lack of enthusiasm."
"Obstacles cannot crush me. Every obstacle yields to stern resolve. He who is fixed to a star
does not change his mind." --
"People are inherently fair and are motivated to pay you back for any nice things you do for
them." -- Brian Tracy
"Positive thinking will let you do everything better than negative thinking will." -- Zig Ziglar
"Read an hour every day in your chosen field. This works out to about one book per week, 50
books per year, and will guarantee your success." -- Brian Tracy
"Since the perfect human being has not been discovered, we all need to live with our hang-ups
and our idiosyncrasies until they can be ironed out. One of the most important qualities in
successful, dynamic living is that of self-acceptance." -- Denis Waitley
"Success is dependent upon the glands--sweat glands."
"The challenge of leadership is to be strong, but not rude; be kind, but not weak; be bold, but
not a bully; be thoughtful, but not lazy; be humble, but not timid; be proud, but not arrogant;
have humor, but without folly."
"The fault is not in the stars, but in ourselves."
"The finest eloquence is that which gets things done." -- David Lloyd George
"The game of life is the game of boomerangs. Our thoughts, deeds and words return to us
sooner or later, with astounding accuracy."
"The game of life is the game of boomerangs. Our thoughts, deeds and words return to us
sooner or later, with astounding accuracy." -- Florence Shinn
"The key to change... is to let go of fear." -- Rosanne Cash
"The most beautiful discovery true friends make is that they can grow separately without
growing apart."
"The path to success is to take massive, determined action."
"The reason why worry kills more people than work is that more people worry than work." --
Robert Frost
"The same God who created Rembrandt created you, and you are as precious in God's sight as
Rembrandt or anyone else." -- Zig Ziglar
"The smart ones ask when they don't know. And sometimes, when they do."
"The things I want to know are in books; my best friend is the man who'll get me a book I ain't
read." -- Abraham Lincoln
"The trouble with many plans is that they are based on the way things are now. To be
successful, your personal plan must focus on what you want, not what you have." -- Nido
Qubein
"The value of a relationship is in direct proportion to the time that you invest in the relationship
"There are seldom, if ever, any hopeless situations, but there are many people who lose hope in
the face of some situations."
"There are some things you don't have to know how it works - only that it works. While some
people are studying the roots, others are picking the fruit. It just depends on which end of this
you want to get in on."
"There is no chance, no destiny, no fate that can circumvent or hinder or control the firm
resolve of a determined soul."
"There is no sudden leap to greatness. Your success lies in doing, day by day. Your upward
reach comes from working well and carefully." -- Max Steingart
"There is not enough darkness in all the world to put out the light of even one small candle"-
Robert Alden
"There is the risk you cannot afford to take, and there is the risk you cannot afford not to take."
"There should be less talk. What do you do then? Take a broom and clean someone's house.
That says enough." -- Mother Theresa
"To acquire balance means to achieve that happy medium between the minimum and the
maximum that represents your optimum. The minimum is the least you can get by with. The
maximum is the most you're capable of. The optimum is the amount or degree of anything that
is most favorable toward the ends you desire." -- Nido Qubein
"Truly, it is in darkness that one finds the light, so when we are in sorrow, then this light is
nearest of all to us"- Meister Eckhart
"Watch your manner of speech if you wish to develop a peaceful state of mind. Start each day by
affirming peaceful, contented and happy attitudes and your days will tend to be pleasant and
successful." -- Norman Vincent Peale
"We must learn to help those who deserve it, not just those who need it. Life responds to
deserve not need."
"What one skill, if you developed it, could have the greatest positive impact on your career? This
is the key to your future." -- Brian Tracy
"What we think or what we believe is, in the end, of little consequence. The only thing of
consequence is what we do." -- John Ruskin
"What you want will pull like a magnet. Here's the other part. What for? Purpose is stronger
than object. It's the 'What for?' that's even more powerful than the object. And the more you can
describe in detail to stir the emotion and the intellect and the spirit and the soul, then the more
powerful the 'what for' is."
"When I hear somebody sigh, 'Life is hard,' I am always tempted to ask, 'Compared to what?'" --
Sydney Harris
"When you cannot make up your mind which of two evenly balanced courses of action you
should take -- choose the bolder."
"Work joyfully and peacefully, knowing that right thoughts and right efforts will inevitably bring
about right results." -- James Allen
"You can have everything in life you want if you will just help enough other people get what they
want."
"You have to decide what your highest priorities are and have the courage -- pleasantly,
smilingly, non-apologetically -- to say 'no' to other things. And the way you do that is by having
a bigger 'yes' burning inside. The enemy of the 'best' is often the 'good.'" -- Stephen Covey
[Another] important factor in overcoming fear-complete trust in God.
“Son, if you’re in something, get in it. If you’re not in it, get out. If you’re not giving your best
effort, you’re not being fair to the man you’re working for, and you’re not being fair to yourself.”
A couple cannot survive if one person always makes decisions independent of the other. It takes
longer to make a decision if you insist on discussion that produces unity, but it removes the
danger of hasty decisions that can cause a couple future problems in their marriage.
A man needs to recognize the tremendous worth of his wife. Women have two incredibly
important capacities because of the special way they're created. First, they have an intuitive
desire to build meaningful relationships with those in their lives. Not only that, but they also
have the capacity to recognize a healthy and intimate relationship. In a practical way, this
means that a woman carries inside her a built-in marriage manual!
A true friend is somebody who can make us do what we can. Ralph Waldo Emerson (1803-1882,
American poet, essayist)
A vigorous five mile walk will do more good for an unhappy, but otherwise healthy adult than all
the medicine and psychology in the world. Paul Dudley White
Accept failure as a normal part of living. View it as part of the process of exploring your world;
make a note of its lessons and move on. Tom Hobson
Accept fate, and move on. Don't yield to the seductive pull of self-pity. Acting like a victim
threatens your future.
Accept the challenges so that you may feel the exhilaration of victory. George S. Patton (1885-
1945, American army general during World War II)
Acceptance of what has happened is the first step to overcoming the consequences of any
misfortune. William James (1842-1910, American psychologist, professor, author)
Accomplishment is easiest when we work the hardest, and it is hardest when we work the
easiest.
Achievement is not always success, while reputed failure often is. It is honest endeavor,
persistent effort to do the best possible under any and all circumstances. Orison Swett Marden
(1850-1924, American author, founder of Success Magazine)
Acquire new knowledge whilst thinking over the old, and you may become a teacher of others.
Confucius (BC 551-479, Chinese ethical teacher, philosopher)
Acquire the courage to believe in yourself. Many of the things that you have been taught were
at one time the radical ideas of individuals who had the courage to believe what their own hearts
and minds told them was true, rather than accept the common beliefs of their day. Ching Ning
Chu (Chinese-American businesswoman, lecturer, author)
Act as if you were already happy, and that will tend to make you - Dale Carnegie (1888-1955,
American trainer, author, "How to Win Friends and Influence People")
Action springs not from thought, but from a readiness for responsibility. Dietrich Bonhoeffer
(1906-1945, German Lutheran pastor and theologian)
Actions are the seed of fate deeds grow into destiny. A. L. Linall Jr. (1947-, American editor)
Added benefits of drive through talking: (a) Gives you a chance to fully understand what the
other person is saying before you respond. This also prevents tuning out the other person while
he or she is talking. (b) Validates the other person and his or her opinions. When you not only
listen but also repeat back what someone says, you communicate that the person and his or her
opinions are important to you and worth taking seriously.
Adopting the right attitude can convert a negative stress into a positive one. Hans Selye (1907-
1982, Canadian physician born in Austria, research on stress)
After you've done a thing the same way for two years, look it over carefully. After five years,
look at it with suspicion. And after ten years, throw it away and start all over. Alfred Edward
Perlman
Age does not depend upon years, but upon temperament and health. Some men are born old,
and some never grow up. Tryon Edwards (1809-1894, American theologian)
Aim above morality. Be not simply good, be good for something. Henry David Thoreau (1817-
1862, American essayist, poet, naturalist)
Aim for your star, no matter how far, you must reach high above and touch your life with love,
you must never look back, but charge on! Attack! See your goal your star of desire, see it red
hot, feel it burning, you must be obsessed with it to make it your true yearning, be ready my
friends for when you truly believe it, you will certainly achieve it and by all of God’s universal
laws you will always receive it! Bob Smith (American editor, author, founder of Orison Swett
Marden Foundation)
All excellence involves discipline and tenacity of purpose. John W. Gardner (1912-2002,
American educator, social activist)
All good work is done the way ants do things, little by little. Lafcadio Hearn (1850-1904 Greek
writer and translator)
All great deeds and all great thoughts have a ridiculous beginning. Albert Camus (1913-1960,
French existential writer)
All life demands struggle. Those who have everything given to them become lazy, selfish, and
insensitive to the real values of life. The very striving and hard work that we so constantly try
to avoid is the major building block in the person we are today. Ralph Ransom
All of man's troubles come from his inability to sit alone, quietly, in a room, for any length of
time. Blaise Pascal (1623-1662, French scientist, religious philosopher)
All that you accomplish or fail to accomplish with your life is the direct result of your thoughts.
James Allen (1864-1912, British-born American essayist, author, "As A Man Thinketh")
And if I may be so bold to offer my last piece of advice for someone seeking and needing to make
changes in their life--if you don't like how things are, change it! You're not a tree. You have the
ability to totally transform every area in your life--and it all begins with your very own power of
choice.
Anger creates distance, and distance destroys relationships. It causes husbands and wives and
parents and children to drift away from each other. Home becomes little more than a dormitory
with hostile roommates.
Do not be threatened by the presence of conflict, but use it as a flashing road sign that gets your
attention to do whatever is necessary to resolve it at some point.
Do not fear sudden calamity if you are walking uprightly before God. It may be setting the stage
for a great victory that will bring praise and honor to your heavenly Father. These battles are
training grounds for greater victories to come.
Don't allow guilt to overwhelm you when you notice negative emotional signals flashing. Rather,
make a decision to use those signals as a motivation to evaluate and change your focus.
Don't judge each day by the harvest you reap, but by the seeds you plant."
Either you reach a higher point today, or you exercise your strength in order to be able to climb
higher tomorrow. Friedrich Nietzsche (1844-1900, German philosopher)
Every man has tremendous value. It's hidden at times, perhaps, but always there -- a worth
based on the incredible impact he has on every member of the family through his everyday
actions and attitudes. Encourage him to remember how important he is and to make that
impact positive and affirming.
Everyone is kneaded out of the same dough, but not baked in the same oven. Yiddish Proverb
Everyone must row with the oars they have. English Proverb (Sayings of British origin)
Great ability develops and reveals itself increasingly with every new assignment." -- Baltasar
Gracion
Great things are not done by impulse, but by a series of small things brought together. Vincent
Van Gogh (1853-1890, Dutch-born French painter)
He who asks of life nothing but the improvement of his own nature… is less liable than anyone
else to miss and waste life.Henri Frederic Amiel (1821-1881, Swiss philosopher, poet, critic)
If you have nothing else to do, look at yourself and see if there isn't something close at hand that
you can improve. It may make you wealthy, although it is more likely it will make you happy.
George M. Adams (1878-1962, American author)
If you want to sail your ship in a different direction, you must turn one degree at a time." --
Brian Tracy
It is time for us all to stand and cheer for the doer, the achiever -- the one who recognizes the
challenges and does something about it. Vince Lombardi (1913-1970, American football coach)
Life has a practice of leaving you unexpectedly, so live it to the fullest while you can
Many people complain that their mate is strangely silent when they do something above and
beyond the norm. We need to give praise and thanks to each other for special acts of kindness.
One simple way to honor your wife is by regularly showing that you appreciate her. Specific
words of praise always score major points. Flattery is insincere or excessive praise. It's rooted
in motives of self-interest; it implies you want something from her. True praise, on the other
hand, focuses more on character qualities and is not self-serving.
Others have done it before me. I can, too. Corporal John Faunce (American soldier)
Our greatest joy and satisfaction comes from the act of giving. - Leo Buscaglia
Refrain from confronting your husband's deficiencies in anger. A man has a tendency to fight his
conscience, and if you become his conscience, he'll either fight you or flee from you. Whichever
route he takes, you've failed in your desire to spend more time with him.
So many men and woman treat each other as objects to be used. They may not verbalize it, but
they maintain an inward conviction that their mate should do things that have never been
discussed. This is like steadily pouring acid on intimacy.
The key to a close-knit marriage is maximizing the times together and minimizing the times
apart. Our culture has a tendency to emphasize "doing your own thing" rather than marital
closeness. The more activities you can do as a couple, the better the chances are that you'll
develop a deep, lasting relationship.
The pain we feel for others helps us move forward in our personal journey into maturity.
Additional benefits include heightened thoughtfulness, gentleness, carefulness, kindness,
patience, and self-control.
The Spirit-filled person is one who seeks to do the will of God and lives by faith drawing upon
the supernatural resources of God the Holy Spirit for every attitude, motive and desire of his
life. - b. bright
The successful apology dissolves anger and humiliation. It shows respect, builds trust, and helps
prevent further misunderstanding. A sincere apology makes it much easier to forgive."
The true test of character is... how we behave when we don't know what to do. John Holt (1908-
1967, Australian Prime Minister)
The words of your mouth are a creative force. They play a big part in predestining your future.
Your words are the architects of your life. The tongue is like a tool. We need to use our tools of
the present to build our future we desire.
To associate with other like-minded people in small purposeful groups is for the great majority
of men and women a source of profound psychological satisfaction. Aldous Huxley (1894-1963,
British author)
Too many of us are not living our dreams because we are living our fears. Les Brown (1945-,
American speaker, author, trainer, motivator
true apology depends on the three Rs: regret, responsibility, and remedy.
We cannot allow our errors in judgment, repeated every day, to lead us down the wrong path.
We must keep coming back to those basics that make the biggest difference in how our life
works out. And then we must make the very choices that will bring life, happiness and joy into
our daily lives.
We created our circumstances by our past choices. We have both the ability and the
responsibility to make better choices beginning today.
We should instead discuss our roles in marriage and what areas we can encourage each other to
do. We should choose areas based on genuine love and not on expectations that have never
been discussed.
What we achieve inwardly will change outer reality. Otto Rank (1884-1939, Austrian-born
psychoanalyst)
When one has the feeling of dislike for evil, when one feels tranquil, one finds pleasure in
listening to good teachings; when one has these feelings and appreciates them, one is free of
fear. Buddha (568-488 BC, Indian born, founder of Buddhism)
When you are young and without success, you have only a few friends. Then, later on, when you
are rich and famous, you still have a few... if you are lucky. Pablo Picasso (1881-1973, Spanish
artist)
Work like you don't need the money. Love like you've never been hurt. Dance like nobody is
watching." -- Mark Twain
You always project on the outside how you feel on the inside." -- Denis Waitley
The true test of character is... how we behave when we don't know what to do. John Holt (1908-
1967, Australian Prime Minister)
Throw a resourceful person into a river, and he will probably come out with a fish in his hand.
Arabian Proverb
Big results require big ambitions. James Champy (American author and international
management consultant)
You can do what you want to do, sometimes you can do it even than you thought you could.
Jimmy Carter (1924-, American President (39th))
The applause of a single human being is of great consequence. Samuel Johnson (1709-1784,
British author)
Abundance is not something we acquire. It is something we tune into. Wayne Dyer (1940-,
American psychotherapist, author, lecturer)
Nobody grows old merely by living a number of years. We grow old by deserting our ideals.
Samuel Ullman (1840-1924, German-born American educator, writer, poet)
I am not concerned that I am not known, I seek to be worthy to be known. Confucius (BC 551-
479, Chinese ethical teacher, philosopher)
All human actions have one or more of these seven causes: chance, nature, compulsions, habit,
reason, passion, desire. Aristotle (BC 384-322, Greek philosopher)
I had to pick myself up and get on with it, do it all over again, only even better this time. Sam
Walton (1918-1992, American businessman, founder of Wal-mart)
Age is a matter of feeling, not of years. George William Curtis (1824-1892, American journalist)
Measure yourself by your best moments, not by your worst. We are too prone to judge
ourselves by our moments of despondency and depression. Robert Johnson
The trouble is, if you don't risk anything, you risk even more. Erica Jong, (1942-, American
author)
The superior man understands what is right; the inferior man understands what will sell.
Confucius, (BC 551-479, Chinese ethical teacher, philosopher)
Surround yourself with only people who are going to lift you higher. Oprah Winfrey
Never let your failures go to your heart or your successes go to your head.
Attitude is more important than the past, than education, than money, than circumstances, than
what people do or say. It is more important than appearance, giftedness, or skill. Charles
Swindoll(1934-, American pastor, author)
If you can command yourself, you can command the world. Chinese Proverb
The worst loneliness is not to be comfortable with yourself. Mark Twain (1835-1910, American
humorist, writer)
You create your opportunities by asking for them. Patty Hansen (American author, wife of
Mark Victor Hansen)
Associate yourself with men of good quality if you esteem your own reputation. It is better be
alone than in bad company. George Washington (1732-1799, American President (1st))
Develop an attitude of gratitude, and give thanks for everything that happens to you, knowing
that every step forward is a step toward achieving something bigger and better than your
current situation. Brian Tracy(1944-, Canadian-born American trainer, speaker, author,
businessman)
Never hurry. Take plenty of exercise. Always be cheerful. Take all the sleep you need. You may
expect to be well. James Freeman Clarke (1810-1888, American minister, theologian)
There are no menial jobs, only menial attitudes. William John Bennett (1943-, American federal
official)
Champions know that success is inevitable, that there is no suchthing as failure, only feedback.
They know that the best way to forecast the future is to create it. Michael J. Gelb (American
peak performance expert, author, trainer)
Until you value yourself, you will not value your time. Until you value your time, you will not do
anything with it. M. Scott Peck
If you are always dwelling in trouble, change your address. American Proverb
Nothing befalls a man except what is in his nature to endure. Marcus Aurelius (121-12180,
Roman emperor, philosopher)
"Faith is not only a commitment to the promises of Christ; faith is also a commitment to the
demands of Christ." -- William Barclay
"Do not pray for tasks equal to your powers. Pray for powers equal to your tasks. Then the
doing of your work shall be no miracle, but you yourself shall be the miracle." -- Phillips Brooks
Every day above ground is a good day.
"Take a chance! All life is a chance. The person who goes farthest is generally the one who is
willing to do and dare. The 'sure thing' boat never gets far from shore." -- Dale Carnegie
"Commitment is that turning point in your life when you seize the moment and convert it into
an opportunity to alter you destiny." -- Denis Waitley
"It takes time to build a corporate work of art. It takes time to build a life. And it takes time to
develop and grow. So give yourself, your enterprise, and your family the time they deserve and
the time they require." -- Jim Rohn
"You make up your mind before you start that sacrifice is part of the package." -- Richard M.
DeVos
"The greatest communication skill is paying value to others" -- Denis Waitley
"Speak when you are angry and you will make the best speech you will ever regret." --
Ambrose Bierce
"The basic difference between being assertive and being aggressive is how our words and
behavior affect the rights and well being of others." -- Sharon Anthony Bower
"Accept complete responsibility both for understanding and for being understood." -- Brian
Tracy
"Don't dwell on what went wrong. Instead, focus on what to do next. Spend you energies on
moving forward toward finding the answer." -- Denis Waitley
"Concentration is the secret of strength in politics, in war, in trade, in short in all management of
human affairs." -- Ralph Waldo Emerson
"Determine what specific goal you want to achieve. Then dedicate yourself to its attainment
with unswerving singleness of purpose, the trenchant zeal of a crusader." -- Paul J. Meyer
"Concentrate your powers. Identify what you are particularly good at doing and do more of it."
-- Brian Tracy
"No man can always be right. So the struggle is to do one's best, to keep the brain and
conscience clear, never to be swayed by unworthy motives or inconsequential reasons, but to
strive to unearth the basic factors involved, then do one's duty." -- Dwight D. Eisenhower
"What we see depends mainly on what we look for." -- John Lubbock
"Look for role models who have succeeded in achieving goals similar to your own - individuals
with whom you can personally identify." -- Denis Waitley
"Example has more followers than reason. We unconsciously imitate what pleases us, and
approximate to the characters we most admire." -- Christian Nevell Bovee
"Rest is not idleness, and to lie sometimes on the grass on a summer day listening to the
murmur of water, or watching the clouds float across the sky, is hardly a waste of time." -- Sir
John Lubbock
"Never argue with the inevitable." -- Patricia Fripp
"Blessed are the flexible, for they shall not be bent out of shape." -- Dr. Michael McGriffy
"The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena; whose face is marred by dust and
sweat and blood; who strives valiantly; who errs and comes short again and again; who knows
the great enthusiasms, the great devotions, and spends himself in a worthy cause; who at the
best knows in the end the triumph of high achievement; and who at the worst, if he fails, at least
fails while daring greatly." -- Theodore Roosevelt
"Courage is fear that has said its prayers." -- Dorothy Bernard
"Creativity is inventing, experimenting, growing, taking risks, breaking rules, making mistakes
and having fun." -- Mary Lou Cook
"My mentor said, 'Let's go do it,' not 'You go do it.' How powerful when someone says, 'Let's!'" --
Jim Rohn
"Apprentice for two years to a great, inspiring leader who'll mentor and teach you. Execute his
or her requests with excellence and elegance. Meet and befriend all his or her friends,
associates, bankers, clients, suppliers and actively keep them in your own Rolodex." -- Mark
Victor Hansen
"The mediocre teacher tells. The good teacher explains. The superior teacher demonstrates.
The great teacher inspires." -- William Arthur Ward
"To teach is to learn twice." -- Joseph Joubert
"I have held many things in my hands, and have lost them all; but whatever I have placed in
God's hands, that I still possess." -- Martin Luther
"Lift up your heart to GOD, sometimes even at your meals, and when you are in company; the
least little remembrance will always be acceptable to Him. You need not cry very loud; he is
nearer to us than we are aware of." -- Brother Lawrence
A closed mouth gathers no feet.
bobdelamar (1/23/2006 4:56:33 PM): Don't worry about tomorrow, because tomorrow will
have its own worries. Matthew 6:34 God liberated his children from slavery and created a path
through the sea. He gave them a cloud to follow in the day and a fire to see at night. And he gave
them food.... Each morning the manna came. Each evening the quail appeared. "Trust me. Trust
me and I will give you what you need." The people were told to take just enough for one day.
Their needs would be met, one day at a time.
Some people dream of success... while others wake up and work hard at it. ~Author Unknown
"You never know how much you really believe anything until its truth or falsehood becomes a
matter of life or death to you."- C.S. Lewis
"He who loses money, loses much; He who loses a friend, loses much more, He who loses faith,
loses all." Eleanor Roosevelt
"The leader seeks to communicate his vision to his followers. He captures their attention with
his optimistic intuition of possible solutions to their needs. He influences them by the dynamism
of his faith. He demonstrates confidence that the challenge can be met, the need resolved, the
crisis overcome." John Haggai
"Be willing to wait longer for you goals to bear fruit than you had anticipated." -- Denis Waitley
"Unreasonable haste is the direct road to error." -- Jean Baptiste Moliere
"You have to allow a certain amount of time in which you are doing nothing in order to have
things occur to you, to let your mind think." -- Mortimer Adler
"The twin killers of success are impatience and greed." -- Jim Rohn
"Do not worry about your difficulties in mathematics. I can assure you mine are still greater." --
Albert Einstein
One accurate measurement is worth a thousand expert opinions. -- Admiral Grace Hopper
Every new opinion, at its starting, is precisely in a minority of one. -- Thomas Carlyle
"New opinions are always suspected, and usually opposed, without any other reason but
because they are not already common." -- John Locke
"The last dejected effort often becomes the winning stroke." -- W.J. Cameron
When I have finally decided that a result is worth getting, I go ahead on it and make trail after
trial until it comes. -- Thomas Edison
"Perseverance is more Prevailing than violence and many things which cannot be overcome
when they are together yield themselves up when taken little by little." -- Plutarch
"Courage and perseverance have a magical talisman, before which difficulties disappear and
obstacles vanish into air." -- John Quincy Adams
"Usually a person has more faith in their fear than faith in their future...." Doug Firebaugh
"Optimism is the faith that leads to achievement. Nothing can be done without hope or
confidence." Helen Keller
"The only limit to our realization of tomorrow will be our doubts of today; Let us move forward
with strong and active faith." Franklin D. Roosevelt
"Take the first step in faith. You don't have to see the whole staircase, just take the first step."
Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr.
"It gives me great pleasure to converse with the aged. They have been over the road that all of
us must travel and know where it is rough and difficult and where it is level and easy." Plato
"I have yet to find the man, however exalted his station, who did not do better work and put
forth greater effort under a spirit of approval than under a spirit of criticism." -- Charles Schwab
"You don’t have to fear defeat if you believe it may reveal powers that you didn’t know you
possessed." -- Napolean Hill
"The great pleasure in life is doing what people say you cannot do." -- Walter Bagehot
"We are never more discontented with others than when we are discontented with ourselves.
The consciousness of wrongdoing makes us irritable, and our heart in its cunning quarrels with
what is outside it, in order that it may deafen the clamour within." -- Henri Amiel
"What you leave in your children, is more important than what you leave to them." -- Denis
Waitley
"Acting is just a way of making a living; the family is life." -- Denzel Washington
"I've been very blessed. My parents always told me I could be anything I wanted. When you
grow up in a household like that, you learn to believe in yourself." -- Rick Schroeder
"Take time out every day for the important people in your life." -- Brian Tracy
"It has meant a lot to me to challenge the best players in the world and to beat them. And it
means a lot to me to be out here and fighting for the title and, you know, it hurts not to win it." -
- Andre Agassi
"Life is to be lived. If you have to support yourself, you had bloody well better find some way
that is going to be interesting. And you don’t do that by sitting around." -- Katharine Hepburn
"Seek out that particular mental attribute which makes you feel most deeply and vitally alive,
along with which comes the inner voice which says, ‘This is the real me,’ and when you have
found that attitude, follow it." -- William James
"Your profession is not what brings home your paycheck. Your profession is what you were put
on earth to do with such passion and such intensity that it becomes spiritual in calling." --
Vincent Van Gogh
"Trust your instincts. Your mistakes might as well be your own instead of someone else's." Billy
Wilder
"Don't let the learning from your own experiences take too long. If you have been doing it wrong
for the last ten years, I would suggest that's long enough!" Jim Rohn
"Don't join an easy crowd; you won't grow. Go where the expectations and the demands to
perform are high." Jim Rohn
"Live each day as if your last, not in the future, not in the past. You may not get what you want,
but, in the long run, you will get what you expect." Denis Waitley
"Excuses are the language of the failure, and the melody of the mediocre…" -- Doug Firebaugh
"The patient person accepts a certain amount of failure knowing that it is as important a thread
in the fabric of life as is success. Great individuals make great successes out of failure." -- Denis Waitley
"It doesn't matter how much milk you spill as long as you don't lose the cow." -- Harvey Mackay
"Failure is only the opportunity to begin again more intelligently." -- Henry Ford
"Don't be afraid to take a big step if one is indicated; you can't cross a chasm in two small
jumps." -- David Lloyd George
"Refuse to let the fear of rejection hold you back. Remember, rejection is never personal." --
Brian Tracy
"I am always doing things I can't do, that's how I get to do them." -- Pablo Picasso
"Obstacles cannot crush me. Every obstacle yields to stern resolve. He who is fixed to a star
does not change his mind." -- Leonardo da Vinci
"Divide each difficulty into as many parts as necessary to resolve it." -- Rene Descartes
"You can surmount the obstacles in your path if you are determined, courageous and hard-
working. Never be faint-hearted. Be resolute, but never bitter." -- Ralph J. Bunche
"The problem is not that there are problems. The problem is expecting otherwise and thinking
that having problems is a problem." Theodore Rubin
"The real winners in life are the people who look at every situation with an expectation that
they can make it work or make it better." Barbara Pletcher
"Let us be about setting high standards for life, love, creativity, and wisdom. If our expectations
in these areas are low, we are not likely to experience wellness. Setting high standards makes
every day and every decade worth looking forward to." Greg Anderson
"Life... It tends to respond to our outlook, to shape itself to meet our expectations." Richard M.
DeVos
"Whether you think you can or think you can't, you're right." Henry Ford
" He who has a why to live for can bear almost any how..." -Friedrich Nietzsche-
Human beings, by change, renew, rejuvenate ourselves; otherwisewe harden. Johann Wolfgang
Von Goethe (1749-1832, German poet, dramatist, novelist
"Reading about nature is fine, but if a person walks in the woods and listens carefully, he can
learn more than what is in books, for they speak with the voice of God."-George Washington
Carver
The best inheritance a parent can give to his children is a few minutes of their time each day.' --
M. Grundler
You are never too old to set another goal or to dream a new dream. .. C.S. Lewis
There are those who look at things the way they are and ask why ... I dream of things that
never were and ask why not? .. Robert F. Kennedy
Every great dream begins with a dreamer. Always remember, you have within you the
strength, the patience and the passion to reach for the stars to change the world. .. Harriet
Tubman
When our memories outweigh our dreams, we have grown old. .. Bill Clinton
When you were born, you cried and the world rejoiced. Live your life so that when you die, the
world cries and you rejoice. .. Cherokee Expression
Years wrinkle the skin, but to give up enthusiasm wrinkles the soul. .. Douglas MacArthur
It is far more impressive when others discover your good qualities without your help.
Be ready for the sudden surprise visits of God. A ready person never needs to get ready— he is
ready. - Oswald Chambers
Unguarded strength is actually a double weakness, because that is where the least likely
temptations will be effective in sapping strength. The Bible characters stumbled over their
strong points, never their weak ones. - Oswald Chambers
In times of uncertainty, wait. Always, if you have any doubt, wait. Do not force yourself to any
action. If you have a restraint in your spirit, wait until all is clear, and do not go against it.-
Streams in the Dessert
"Learned helplessness is the giving-up reaction, the quitting response that follows from the
belief that whatever you do doesn't matter."
"We must all wage an intense, lifelong battle against the constant downward pull. If we relax,
the bugs and weeds of negativity will move into the garden and take away everything of value."
Jim Rohn
"To live is to choose. But to choose well, you must know who you are and what you stand for,
where you want to go and why you want to get there."
"The battle, sir, is not to the strong alone it is to the vigilant, the active, the brave."
"When you do the common things in life in an uncommon way, you will command the attention
of the world."
"Ninety-nine percent of the failures come from people who have the habit of making excuses."
"Doubt can only be removed by action."
"Victory belongs to the most persevering."
"Preparation, I have often said, is rightly two-thirds of any venture"
"A pessimist sees the difficulty in every opportunity; an optimist sees the opportunity in every
difficulty."
"Kites rise highest against the wind - not with it."
When you flee temptations don’t leave a forwarding address."
"Out of nothing comes nothing. But out of suffering may come the cure."
"I attribute my success to this - I never gave or took any excuse."
"I think one's feelings waste themselves in words; they ought all to be distilled into actions which
bring results." - Florence Nightingale
"A friend is a man who knows all about you, and still likes you."~ Elbert Hubbard
"Cultivate only the habits you are willing to have master you."
"Education makes people easy to lead, but difficult to drive. Easy to govern, but impossible to
enslave" ~Henry Brougham
"Fortune does not make men, it unmasks them."
"Have good friends or have none."~ Royal Path of Life
"In every triumph there is a lot of try."
"It is easier to resist at the beginning than at the end. "
"Men show their character in nothing more clearly than by what they think laughable."
"Nothing is easy and worthwhile."
"Only dead fish swim with the stream."
"Opportunity is missed by most people because it is dressed in overalls and looks like
work."~Thomas Edison
"Real friendships are so rare, that when they occur, they are famous. " ~Clarence Day
"We cannot choose whom we will love if we claim to be Christians."
"A team is a group of people who may not be equal in experience, talent, or education but in
commitment." -- Patricia Fripp
"Alone we can do so little; together we can do so much." -- Helen Keller
"Always give more in service, than you receive in payment, and customers will beat a path to
your door." -- Denis Waitley
"An idealist believes the short run doesn't count. A cynic believes the long run doesn't matter. A
realist believes that what is done or left undone in the short run determines the long run." --
Syndey J. Harris
"Denying or refusing to deal with some unpleasant fact in your life is the source of most stress
and unhappiness." -- Brian Tracy
"Dependent people need others to get what they want. Independent people can get what they
want through their own efforts. Interdependent people combine their own efforts with the
efforts of others to achieve their greatest success." -- Stephen Covey
"Did you ever see an unhappy horse? Did you ever see a bird that had the blues? One reason
why birds and horses are not unhappy is because they are not trying to impress other birds and
horses." Dale Carnegie
"Don't wish it was easier, wish you were better. Don't wish for less problems, wish for more
skills. Don't wish for less challenges, wish for more wisdom." -- Jim Rohn
"First we make our habits, then our habits make us." Denis Waitley
"Give yourself an even greater challenge than the one you are trying to master and you will
develop the powers necessary to overcome the original difficulty." -- William J. Bennett
"Good friends are good for your health." Irwin Sarason
"Happiness comes when you believe in what you are doing, know what you are doing, and love
what you are doing." Brian Tracy
"Hope is the companion of power, and mother of success; for who so hopes strongly has within
him the gift of miracles." Samuel Smiles
"How friendly are your companies’ first words? Just try this…start all conversations with
customers using one of the following words or phrases: 'great!' 'no problem', 'you're in luck',
'that's my favorite problem'." -- Jeffrey Gitomer
"How much should you earn? As much as you possibly can. It doesn't matter whether you earn
$10,000 a year or $100,000 a year as long as you've done the best you can." -- Jim Rohn
"I am happy and content because I think I am." Alain-Rene Lesage
"I am more and more convinced that our happiness or our unhappiness depends far more on the
way we meet the events of life than on the nature of those events themselves." -- Karl Wilhelm
Von Humboldt
"I am only one; but still I am one. I cannot do everything, but still I can do something. I will not
refuse to do the something I can do." -- Helen Keller
"I not only use all the brains that I have, but all that I can borrow." -- Woodrow Wilson
"If all you do is all you're doing, all you'll get is all you're getting." -- Brian Tracy
"If everyone is thinking alike, then someone isn't thinking." -- Denis Waitley
"If you add value out, you'll bring value in." -- Jeffrey Gitomer
"In the Midst of movement and chaos, keep stillness inside of you." -- Deepak Chopra
"It is not work that kills men; it is worry. Work is healthy; you can hardly put more upon a man
than he can bear. Worry is rust upon the blade. It is not the revolution that destroys the
machinery, but the friction. Fear secrets acids; but love and trust are sweet juices." Henry
Ward Beecher
"It is the mark of an educated mind to be able to entertain a thought without accepting it." --
Aristotle
"It's time to stop tiptoeing around the pool and jump into the deep end, head first. It's time to
think big, want more and achieve it all!" -- Mark Victor Hansen
"Learn how to be happy with what you have while you pursue all that you want." Jim Rohn
"Material success may result in the accumulation of possessions: but only spiritual success will
enable you to enjoy them." -- Nido Qubein
"Nature tops the list of potent tranquilizers and stress reducers. The mere sound of moving
water has been shown to lower blood pressure." -- Patch Adams
"Never doubt that a small group of concerned citizens can change the world, indeed it's the only
thing that has." -- Margaret Mead
"Nothing needs reforming so much as other people's habits." Mark Twain
"One of the secrets of success is to refuse to let temporary setbacks defeat us." -- Mary Kay Ash
"Ordinary people believe only in the possible. Extraordinary people visualize not what is
possible or probable, but rather what is impossible. And by visualizing the impossible, they
begin to see it as possible." -- Cherie Carter-Scott
"Our success should not be a random event, but the result of conscious actions." -- Tony Jeary
"Proper business planning demands that you focus on the self-interest of the customer at all
times." -- Brian Tracy
"Success is never ending, failure is never final." -- Dr. Robert Schuller
"Success is not the destination; it's a way to travel." -- Denis Waitley
"The arms we have been compelled by our enemies to assume we will, in defiance of every
hazard, with unabating firmness and perseverance, employ for the preservation of our liberties
being with one mind resolved to die free rather than live slaves." -- Thomas Jefferson
"The key to success is for you to make a habit throughout your life of doing the things you fear."
Brian Tracy
"The life you are leading is simply a reflection of your thinking." -- Doug Firebaugh
"The more you know, the less you need to say." -- Denis Waitley
"The most important three words you can say to yourself: Yes I can!" -- Denis Waitley
"The secret of getting ahead is getting started. The secret of getting started is breaking your
complex overwhelming tasks into small manageable tasks, and then starting on the first one." --
Mark Twain
"The trouble with many plans is that they are based on the way things are now. To be
successful, your personal plan must focus on what you want, not what you have." -- Nido
Qubein
"The winners in life treat their body as if it were a magnificent spacecraft that gives them the
finest transportation and endurance for their lives." Denis Waitley
"There are those who work all day, those who dream all day, and those who spend an hour
dreaming before setting to work to fulfill those dreams. Go into the third category because
there's virtually no competition." -- Steven J. Ross
"These are the times that try men's souls. The summer soldier and the sunshine patriot will, in
this crisis, shrink from the service of their country; but he that stands it now, deserves the love
and thanks of man and woman." -- Thomas Paine
"Thought is creative. You create your entire life with your thoughts, hour by hour and minute
by minute." -- Brian Tracy
"Use what talents you possess; the woods would be very silent if no birds sang except those that
sang best." -- Henry Van Dyke
"We hold these truths to be self-evident, that all men are created equal, that they are endowed
by their Creator with certain unalienable Rights that among these are Life, Liberty and the
pursuit of Happiness." -- The Declaration of Independence
"We must accept finite disappointment, but we must never lose infinite hope." Dr. Martin
Luther King Jr.
"Whatever the standard of freedom and independence has been or shall be unfurled, there will
be America’s heart, her benedictions and her prayers." -- John Quincy Adams
"Where there is an open mind there will always be a frontier." -- Charles F. Kettering
"Whoever renders service to many puts himself in line for greatness -- great wealth, great
return, great satisfaction, great reputation, and great joy." -- Jim Rohn
"Working hard is the foundation for any success in life... but many people have what I call the
'Reverse Disease'...they see 'working hard' as 'hardly working'... and expect the same results....
yeah right." -- Doug Firebaugh
"You can't solve a problem on the same level that it was created. You have to rise above it to the
next level." -- Albert Einstein
F.E.A.R - False Emotion Appearing Real
Wednesday, September 21, 2005
When you make people feel better about themselves, you also feel better about yourself.
"A library, to modify the famous metaphor of Socrates, should be the delivery room for the birth of ideas-a place where history comes to life." -- Norman Cousins
"Adversity has the effect of eliciting talents which, in prosperous circumstances, would have lain dormant." -- Horace
"Anyone who has never made a mistake has never tried anything new." -- Albert Einstein
"As I grow older, I pay less attention to what men say. I just watch what they do."
"At the end of each day, you should play back the tapes of your performance. The results should either applaud you or prod you."
"Dare to risk public criticism."
"Develop a bias for action, a sense of urgency, to get things done."
"Disgust and resolve are two of the great emotions that lead to change."
"Don't be afraid to give your best to what seemingly are small jobs. Every time you conquer one it makes you that much stronger. If you do the little jobs well, the big ones tend to take care of themselves." -- Dale Carnegie
"Don't say, 'If I could, I would.' Say, 'If I can, I will.'" -- Jim Rohn
"Duty makes us do things well, but love makes us do them beautifully."
"Evaluation of the past is the first step toward vision for the future."
"Every farmer knows that you can't sow and reap on the same day. There is a timetable for your harvest that requires both working and waiting. Patience is a small price to pay for what you will receive." -- Neil Eskelin
"Every man should periodically be compelled to listen to opinions which are infuriating to him. To hear nothing but what is pleasing to one is to make a pillow of the mind."
"Expect the best, plan for the worst, and prepare to be surprised." -- Denis Waitley
"Failure is not a single, cataclysmic event. You don't fail overnight. Instead, failure is a few errors in judgment, repeated every day." -- Jim Rohn
"Fear; if allowed free rein, would reduce all of us to trembling shadows of men, for whom only death could bring release." -- John M. Wilson
"Good people are found not changed. Recently I read a headline that said, "We don't teach people to be nice. We simply hire nice people." Wow! What a clever short cut."
"Happy the man who has broken the chains which hurt the mind, and has given up worrying, once and for all." -- Ovid
"Here's the philosophy of the rich and the poor. Poor people spend their money and invest what's left. The rich invest their money and spend what's left. Think like the rich--invest your money first, then spend what's left."
"I destroy my enemies when I make them my friends."
"I had six honest serving men - they taught me all I knew: Their names were Where and What and When and Why and How and Who."
"I not only use all the brains that I have, but all that I can borrow." -- Woodrow Wilson
"I will love the light for it shows me the way, yet I will endure the darkness for it shows me the stars." -- Og Mandino
"Internalize the 'Golden Rule' of sales that say, 'All things being equal, people will do business with, and refer business to, those people they know, like and trust.'"
"Knowledge might be power, but only when you take action." -- Richard Keeves
"Managers help people see themselves as they are; Leaders help people to see themselves better than they are."
"Many of life's failures are people who did not realize how close they were to success when they gave up." -- Thomas Edison
"Never begin the day until it is finished on paper." -- Jim Rohn
"No matter what age you are, or what your circumstances might be, you are special, and you still have something unique to offer. Your life, because of who you are, has meaning." -- Barbara De Angelis
"Nothing will kill a sale faster than lack of enthusiasm."
"Obstacles cannot crush me. Every obstacle yields to stern resolve. He who is fixed to a star does not change his mind." --
"People are inherently fair and are motivated to pay you back for any nice things you do for them." -- Brian Tracy
"Positive thinking will let you do everything better than negative thinking will." -- Zig Ziglar
"Read an hour every day in your chosen field. This works out to about one book per week, 50 books per year, and will guarantee your success." -- Brian Tracy
"Since the perfect human being has not been discovered, we all need to live with our hang-ups and our idiosyncrasies until they can be ironed out. One of the most important qualities in successful, dynamic living is that of self-acceptance." -- Denis Waitley
"Success is dependent upon the glands--sweat glands."
"The challenge of leadership is to be strong, but not rude; be kind, but not weak; be bold, but not a bully; be thoughtful, but not lazy; be humble, but not timid; be proud, but not arrogant; have humor, but without folly."
"The fault is not in the stars, but in ourselves."
"The finest eloquence is that which gets things done." -- David Lloyd George
"The game of life is the game of boomerangs. Our thoughts, deeds and words return to us
sooner or later, with astounding accuracy."
"The game of life is the game of boomerangs. Our thoughts, deeds and words return to us sooner or later, with astounding accuracy." -- Florence Shinn
"The key to change... is to let go of fear." -- Rosanne Cash
"The most beautiful discovery true friends make is that they can grow separately without
growing apart."
"The path to success is to take massive, determined action."
"The reason why worry kills more people than work is that more people worry than work." -- Robert Frost
"The same God who created Rembrandt created you, and you are as precious in God's sight as Rembrandt or anyone else." -- Zig Ziglar
"The smart ones ask when they don't know. And sometimes, when they do."
"The things I want to know are in books; my best friend is the man who'll get me a book I ain't read." -- Abraham Lincoln
"The trouble with many plans is that they are based on the way things are now. To be successful, your personal plan must focus on what you want, not what you have." -- Nido
Qubein
"The value of a relationship is in direct proportion to the time that you invest in the relationship
"There are seldom, if ever, any hopeless situations, but there are many people who lose hope in the face of some situations."
"There are some things you don't have to know how it works - only that it works. While some people are studying the roots, others are picking the fruit. It just depends on which end of this you want to get in on."
"There is no chance, no destiny, no fate that can circumvent or hinder or control the firm resolve of a determined soul."
"There is no sudden leap to greatness. Your success lies in doing, day by day. Your upward reach comes from working well and carefully." -- Max Steingart
"There is not enough darkness in all the world to put out the light of even one small candle"- Robert Alden
"There is the risk you cannot afford to take, and there is the risk you cannot afford not to take."
"There should be less talk. What do you do then? Take a broom and clean someone's house. That says enough." -- Mother Theresa
"To acquire balance means to achieve that happy medium between the minimum and the maximum that represents your optimum. The minimum is the least you can get by with. The maximum is the most you're capable of. The optimum is the amount or degree of anything that is most favorable toward the ends you desire." -- Nido Qubein
"Truly, it is in darkness that one finds the light, so when we are in sorrow, then this light is nearest of all to us"- Meister Eckhart
"Watch your manner of speech if you wish to develop a peaceful state of mind. Start each day by affirming peaceful, contented and happy attitudes and your days will tend to be pleasant and successful." -- Norman Vincent Peale
"We must learn to help those who deserve it, not just those who need it. Life responds to deserve not need."
"What one skill, if you developed it, could have the greatest positive impact on your career? This is the key to your future." -- Brian Tracy
"What we think or what we believe is, in the end, of little consequence. The only thing of consequence is what we do." -- John Ruskin
"What you want will pull like a magnet. Here's the other part. What for? Purpose is stronger than object. It's the 'What for?' that's even more powerful than the object. And the more you can describe in detail to stir the emotion and the intellect and the spirit and the soul, then the more powerful the 'what for' is."
"When I hear somebody sigh, 'Life is hard,' I am always tempted to ask, 'Compared to what?'" -- Sydney Harris
"When you cannot make up your mind which of two evenly balanced courses of action you should take -- choose the bolder."
"Work joyfully and peacefully, knowing that right thoughts and right efforts will inevitably bring about right results." -- James Allen
"You can have everything in life you want if you will just help enough other people get what they want."
"You have to decide what your highest priorities are and have the courage -- pleasantly, smilingly, non-apologetically -- to say 'no' to other things. And the way you do that is by having a bigger 'yes' burning inside. The enemy of the 'best' is often the 'good.'" -- Stephen Covey
[Another] important factor in overcoming fear-complete trust in God.
“Son, if you’re in something, get in it. If you’re not in it, get out. If you’re not giving your best effort, you’re not being fair to the man you’re working for, and you’re not being fair to yourself.”
A couple cannot survive if one person always makes decisions independent of the other. It takes longer to make a decision if you insist on discussion that produces unity, but it removes the danger of hasty decisions that can cause a couple future problems in their marriage.
A man needs to recognize the tremendous worth of his wife. Women have two incredibly important capacities because of the special way they're created. First, they have an intuitive desire to build meaningful relationships with those in their lives. Not only that, but they also have the capacity to recognize a healthy and intimate relationship. In a practical way, this means that a woman carries inside her a built-in marriage manual!
A true friend is somebody who can make us do what we can. Ralph Waldo Emerson (1803-1882, American poet, essayist)
A vigorous five mile walk will do more good for an unhappy, but otherwise healthy adult than all the medicine and psychology in the world. Paul Dudley White
Accept failure as a normal part of living. View it as part of the process of exploring your world; make a note of its lessons and move on. Tom Hobson
Accept fate, and move on. Don't yield to the seductive pull of self-pity. Acting like a victim threatens your future.
Accept the challenges so that you may feel the exhilaration of victory. George S. Patton (1885-1945, American army general during World War II)
Acceptance of what has happened is the first step to overcoming the consequences of any misfortune. William James (1842-1910, American psychologist, professor, author)
Accomplishment is easiest when we work the hardest, and it is hardest when we work the easiest.
Achievement is not always success, while reputed failure often is. It is honest endeavor, persistent effort to do the best possible under any and all circumstances. Orison Swett Marden (1850-1924, American author, founder of Success Magazine)
Acquire new knowledge whilst thinking over the old, and you may become a teacher of others. Confucius (BC 551-479, Chinese ethical teacher, philosopher)
Acquire the courage to believe in yourself. Many of the things that you have been taught were at one time the radical ideas of individuals who had the courage to believe what their own hearts and minds told them was true, rather than accept the common beliefs of their day. Ching Ning Chu (Chinese-American businesswoman, lecturer, author)
Act as if you were already happy, and that will tend to make you - Dale Carnegie (1888-1955, American trainer, author, "How to Win Friends and Influence People")
Action springs not from thought, but from a readiness for responsibility. Dietrich Bonhoeffer (1906-1945, German Lutheran pastor and theologian)
Actions are the seed of fate deeds grow into destiny. A. L. Linall Jr. (1947-, American editor)
Added benefits of drive through talking: (a) Gives you a chance to fully understand what the other person is saying before you respond. This also prevents tuning out the other person while he or she is talking. (b) Validates the other person and his or her opinions. When you not only listen but also repeat back what someone says, you communicate that the person and his or her opinions are important to you and worth taking seriously.
Adopting the right attitude can convert a negative stress into a positive one. Hans Selye (1907-1982, Canadian physician born in Austria, research on stress)
After you've done a thing the same way for two years, look it over carefully. After five years, look at it with suspicion. And after ten years, throw it away and start all over. Alfred Edward Perlman
Age does not depend upon years, but upon temperament and health. Some men are born old, and some never grow up. Tryon Edwards (1809-1894, American theologian)
Aim above morality. Be not simply good, be good for something. Henry David Thoreau (1817-1862, American essayist, poet, naturalist)
Aim for your star, no matter how far, you must reach high above and touch your life with love, you must never look back, but charge on! Attack! See your goal your star of desire, see it red hot, feel it burning, you must be obsessed with it to make it your true yearning, be ready my friends for when you truly believe it, you will certainly achieve it and by all of God’s universal laws you will always receive it! Bob Smith (American editor, author, founder of Orison Swett Marden Foundation)
All excellence involves discipline and tenacity of purpose. John W. Gardner (1912-2002, American educator, social activist)
All good work is done the way ants do things, little by little. Lafcadio Hearn (1850-1904 Greek writer and translator)
All great deeds and all great thoughts have a ridiculous beginning. Albert Camus (1913-1960, French existential writer)
All life demands struggle. Those who have everything given to them become lazy, selfish, and insensitive to the real values of life. The very striving and hard work that we so constantly try to avoid is the major building block in the person we are today. Ralph Ransom All of man's troubles come from his inability to sit alone, quietly, in a room, for any length of time. Blaise Pascal (1623-1662, French scientist, religious philosopher)
All that you accomplish or fail to accomplish with your life is the direct result of your thoughts. James Allen (1864-1912, British-born American essayist, author, "As A Man Thinketh")
And if I may be so bold to offer my last piece of advice for someone seeking and needing to make changes in their life--if you don't like how things are, change it! You're not a tree. You have the ability to totally transform every area in your life--and it all begins with your very own power of choice.
Anger creates distance, and distance destroys relationships. It causes husbands and wives and parents and children to drift away from each other. Home becomes little more than a dormitory with hostile roommates.
Do not be threatened by the presence of conflict, but use it as a flashing road sign that gets your attention to do whatever is necessary to resolve it at some point.
Do not fear sudden calamity if you are walking uprightly before God. It may be setting the stage for a great victory that will bring praise and honor to your heavenly Father. These battles are training grounds for greater victories to come.
Don't allow guilt to overwhelm you when you notice negative emotional signals flashing. Rather, make a decision to use those signals as a motivation to evaluate and change your focus.
Don't judge each day by the harvest you reap, but by the seeds you plant."
Either you reach a higher point today, or you exercise your strength in order to be able to climb higher tomorrow. Friedrich Nietzsche (1844-1900, German philosopher)
Every man has tremendous value. It's hidden at times, perhaps, but always there -- a worth based on the incredible impact he has on every member of the family through his everyday actions and attitudes. Encourage him to remember how important he is and to make that impact positive and affirming.
Everyone is kneaded out of the same dough, but not baked in the same oven. Yiddish Proverb
Everyone must row with the oars they have. English Proverb (Sayings of British origin)
Great ability develops and reveals itself increasingly with every new assignment." -- Baltasar Gracion
Great things are not done by impulse, but by a series of small things brought together. Vincent Van Gogh (1853-1890, Dutch-born French painter)
He who asks of life nothing but the improvement of his own nature… is less liable than anyone else to miss and waste life.Henri Frederic Amiel (1821-1881, Swiss philosopher, poet, critic)
If you have nothing else to do, look at yourself and see if there isn't something close at hand that you can improve. It may make you wealthy, although it is more likely it will make you happy. George M. Adams (1878-1962, American author)
If you want to sail your ship in a different direction, you must turn one degree at a time." -- Brian Tracy
It is time for us all to stand and cheer for the doer, the achiever -- the one who recognizes the challenges and does something about it. Vince Lombardi (1913-1970, American football coach)
Life has a practice of leaving you unexpectedly, so live it to the fullest while you can
Many people complain that their mate is strangely silent when they do something above and beyond the norm. We need to give praise and thanks to each other for special acts of kindness.
One simple way to honor your wife is by regularly showing that you appreciate her. Specific words of praise always score major points. Flattery is insincere or excessive praise. It's rooted in motives of self-interest; it implies you want something from her. True praise, on the other hand, focuses more on character qualities and is not self-serving.
Others have done it before me. I can, too. Corporal John Faunce (American soldier)
Our greatest joy and satisfaction comes from the act of giving. - Leo Buscaglia
Refrain from confronting your husband's deficiencies in anger. A man has a tendency to fight his conscience, and if you become his conscience, he'll either fight you or flee from you. Whichever route he takes, you've failed in your desire to spend more time with him.
So many men and woman treat each other as objects to be used. They may not verbalize it, but they maintain an inward conviction that their mate should do things that have never been discussed. This is like steadily pouring acid on intimacy.
The key to a close-knit marriage is maximizing the times together and minimizing the times apart. Our culture has a tendency to emphasize "doing your own thing" rather than marital closeness. The more activities you can do as a couple, the better the chances are that you'll develop a deep, lasting relationship.
The pain we feel for others helps us move forward in our personal journey into maturity. Additional benefits include heightened thoughtfulness, gentleness, carefulness, kindness, patience, and self-control.
The Spirit-filled person is one who seeks to do the will of God and lives by faith drawing upon the supernatural resources of God the Holy Spirit for every attitude, motive and desire of his life. - b. bright
The successful apology dissolves anger and humiliation. It shows respect, builds trust, and helps prevent further misunderstanding. A sincere apology makes it much easier to forgive."
The true test of character is... how we behave when we don't know what to do. John Holt (1908-1967, Australian Prime Minister)
The words of your mouth are a creative force. They play a big part in predestining your future. Your words are the architects of your life. The tongue is like a tool. We need to use our tools of the present to build our future we desire.
To associate with other like-minded people in small purposeful groups is for the great majority of men and women a source of profound psychological satisfaction. Aldous Huxley (1894-1963, British author)
Too many of us are not living our dreams because we are living our fears. Les Brown (1945-, American speaker, author, trainer, motivator
true apology depends on the three Rs: regret, responsibility, and remedy.
We cannot allow our errors in judgment, repeated every day, to lead us down the wrong path. We must keep coming back to those basics that make the biggest difference in how our life works out. And then we must make the very choices that will bring life, happiness and joy into our daily lives.
We created our circumstances by our past choices. We have both the ability and the responsibility to make better choices beginning today.
We should instead discuss our roles in marriage and what areas we can encourage each other to do. We should choose areas based on genuine love and not on expectations that have never been discussed.
What we achieve inwardly will change outer reality. Otto Rank (1884-1939, Austrian-born psychoanalyst)
When one has the feeling of dislike for evil, when one feels tranquil, one finds pleasure in listening to good teachings; when one has these feelings and appreciates them, one is free of fear. Buddha (568-488 BC, Indian born, founder of Buddhism)
When you are young and without success, you have only a few friends. Then, later on, when you are rich and famous, you still have a few... if you are lucky. Pablo Picasso (1881-1973, Spanish artist)
Work like you don't need the money. Love like you've never been hurt. Dance like nobody is watching." -- Mark Twain
You always project on the outside how you feel on the inside." -- Denis Waitley
The true test of character is... how we behave when we don't know what to do. John Holt (1908-1967, Australian Prime Minister)
Throw a resourceful person into a river, and he will probably come out with a fish in his hand. Arabian Proverb
Big results require big ambitions. James Champy (American author and international management consultant)
You can do what you want to do, sometimes you can do it even than you thought you could. Jimmy Carter (1924-, American President (39th))
The applause of a single human being is of great consequence. Samuel Johnson (1709-1784, British author)
Abundance is not something we acquire. It is something we tune into. Wayne Dyer (1940-, American psychotherapist, author, lecturer)
Nobody grows old merely by living a number of years. We grow old by deserting our ideals. Samuel Ullman (1840-1924, German-born American educator, writer, poet)
I am not concerned that I am not known, I seek to be worthy to be known. Confucius (BC 551-479, Chinese ethical teacher, philosopher)
All human actions have one or more of these seven causes: chance, nature, compulsions, habit, reason, passion, desire. Aristotle (BC 384-322, Greek philosopher)
I had to pick myself up and get on with it, do it all over again, only even better this time. Sam Walton (1918-1992, American businessman, founder of Wal-mart)
Age is a matter of feeling, not of years. George William Curtis (1824-1892, American journalist)
Measure yourself by your best moments, not by your worst. We are too prone to judge ourselves by our moments of despondency and depression. Robert Johnson
The trouble is, if you don't risk anything, you risk even more. Erica Jong, (1942-, American author)
The superior man understands what is right; the inferior man understands what will sell. Confucius, (BC 551-479, Chinese ethical teacher, philosopher)
Surround yourself with only people who are going to lift you higher. Oprah Winfrey
Never let your failures go to your heart or your successes go to your head.
Attitude is more important than the past, than education, than money, than circumstances, than what people do or say. It is more important than appearance, giftedness, or skill. Charles Swindoll(1934-, American pastor, author)
If you can command yourself, you can command the world. Chinese Proverb
The worst loneliness is not to be comfortable with yourself. Mark Twain (1835-1910, American humorist, writer)
You create your opportunities by asking for them. Patty Hansen (American author, wife of Mark Victor Hansen)
Associate yourself with men of good quality if you esteem your own reputation. It is better be alone than in bad company. George Washington (1732-1799, American President (1st))
Develop an attitude of gratitude, and give thanks for everything that happens to you, knowing that every step forward is a step toward achieving something bigger and better than your current situation. Brian Tracy(1944-, Canadian-born American trainer, speaker, author, businessman)
Never hurry. Take plenty of exercise. Always be cheerful. Take all the sleep you need. You may expect to be well. James Freeman Clarke (1810-1888, American minister, theologian)
There are no menial jobs, only menial attitudes. William John Bennett (1943-, American federal official)
Champions know that success is inevitable, that there is no suchthing as failure, only feedback. They know that the best way to forecast the future is to create it. Michael J. Gelb (American peak performance expert, author, trainer)
Until you value yourself, you will not value your time. Until you value your time, you will not do anything with it. M. Scott Peck
If you are always dwelling in trouble, change your address. American Proverb
"A library, to modify the famous metaphor of Socrates, should be the delivery room for the birth of ideas-a place where history comes to life." -- Norman Cousins
"Adversity has the effect of eliciting talents which, in prosperous circumstances, would have lain dormant." -- Horace
"Anyone who has never made a mistake has never tried anything new." -- Albert Einstein
"As I grow older, I pay less attention to what men say. I just watch what they do."
"At the end of each day, you should play back the tapes of your performance. The results should either applaud you or prod you."
"Dare to risk public criticism."
"Develop a bias for action, a sense of urgency, to get things done."
"Disgust and resolve are two of the great emotions that lead to change."
"Don't be afraid to give your best to what seemingly are small jobs. Every time you conquer one it makes you that much stronger. If you do the little jobs well, the big ones tend to take care of themselves." -- Dale Carnegie
"Don't say, 'If I could, I would.' Say, 'If I can, I will.'" -- Jim Rohn
"Duty makes us do things well, but love makes us do them beautifully."
"Evaluation of the past is the first step toward vision for the future."
"Every farmer knows that you can't sow and reap on the same day. There is a timetable for your harvest that requires both working and waiting. Patience is a small price to pay for what you will receive." -- Neil Eskelin
"Every man should periodically be compelled to listen to opinions which are infuriating to him. To hear nothing but what is pleasing to one is to make a pillow of the mind."
"Expect the best, plan for the worst, and prepare to be surprised." -- Denis Waitley
"Failure is not a single, cataclysmic event. You don't fail overnight. Instead, failure is a few errors in judgment, repeated every day." -- Jim Rohn
"Fear; if allowed free rein, would reduce all of us to trembling shadows of men, for whom only death could bring release." -- John M. Wilson
"Good people are found not changed. Recently I read a headline that said, "We don't teach people to be nice. We simply hire nice people." Wow! What a clever short cut."
"Happy the man who has broken the chains which hurt the mind, and has given up worrying, once and for all." -- Ovid
"Here's the philosophy of the rich and the poor. Poor people spend their money and invest what's left. The rich invest their money and spend what's left. Think like the rich--invest your money first, then spend what's left."
"I destroy my enemies when I make them my friends."
"I had six honest serving men - they taught me all I knew: Their names were Where and What and When and Why and How and Who."
"I not only use all the brains that I have, but all that I can borrow." -- Woodrow Wilson
"I will love the light for it shows me the way, yet I will endure the darkness for it shows me the stars." -- Og Mandino
"Internalize the 'Golden Rule' of sales that say, 'All things being equal, people will do business with, and refer business to, those people they know, like and trust.'"
"Knowledge might be power, but only when you take action." -- Richard Keeves
"Managers help people see themselves as they are; Leaders help people to see themselves better than they are."
"Many of life's failures are people who did not realize how close they were to success when they gave up." -- Thomas Edison
"Never begin the day until it is finished on paper." -- Jim Rohn
"No matter what age you are, or what your circumstances might be, you are special, and you still have something unique to offer. Your life, because of who you are, has meaning." -- Barbara De Angelis
"Nothing will kill a sale faster than lack of enthusiasm."
"Obstacles cannot crush me. Every obstacle yields to stern resolve. He who is fixed to a star does not change his mind." --
"People are inherently fair and are motivated to pay you back for any nice things you do for them." -- Brian Tracy
"Positive thinking will let you do everything better than negative thinking will." -- Zig Ziglar
"Read an hour every day in your chosen field. This works out to about one book per week, 50 books per year, and will guarantee your success." -- Brian Tracy
"Since the perfect human being has not been discovered, we all need to live with our hang-ups and our idiosyncrasies until they can be ironed out. One of the most important qualities in successful, dynamic living is that of self-acceptance." -- Denis Waitley
"Success is dependent upon the glands--sweat glands."
"The challenge of leadership is to be strong, but not rude; be kind, but not weak; be bold, but not a bully; be thoughtful, but not lazy; be humble, but not timid; be proud, but not arrogant; have humor, but without folly."
"The fault is not in the stars, but in ourselves."
"The finest eloquence is that which gets things done." -- David Lloyd George
"The game of life is the game of boomerangs. Our thoughts, deeds and words return to us
sooner or later, with astounding accuracy."
"The game of life is the game of boomerangs. Our thoughts, deeds and words return to us sooner or later, with astounding accuracy." -- Florence Shinn
"The key to change... is to let go of fear." -- Rosanne Cash
"The most beautiful discovery true friends make is that they can grow separately without
growing apart."
"The path to success is to take massive, determined action."
"The reason why worry kills more people than work is that more people worry than work." -- Robert Frost
"The same God who created Rembrandt created you, and you are as precious in God's sight as Rembrandt or anyone else." -- Zig Ziglar
"The smart ones ask when they don't know. And sometimes, when they do."
"The things I want to know are in books; my best friend is the man who'll get me a book I ain't read." -- Abraham Lincoln
"The trouble with many plans is that they are based on the way things are now. To be successful, your personal plan must focus on what you want, not what you have." -- Nido
Qubein
"The value of a relationship is in direct proportion to the time that you invest in the relationship
"There are seldom, if ever, any hopeless situations, but there are many people who lose hope in the face of some situations."
"There are some things you don't have to know how it works - only that it works. While some people are studying the roots, others are picking the fruit. It just depends on which end of this you want to get in on."
"There is no chance, no destiny, no fate that can circumvent or hinder or control the firm resolve of a determined soul."
"There is no sudden leap to greatness. Your success lies in doing, day by day. Your upward reach comes from working well and carefully." -- Max Steingart
"There is not enough darkness in all the world to put out the light of even one small candle"- Robert Alden
"There is the risk you cannot afford to take, and there is the risk you cannot afford not to take."
"There should be less talk. What do you do then? Take a broom and clean someone's house. That says enough." -- Mother Theresa
"To acquire balance means to achieve that happy medium between the minimum and the maximum that represents your optimum. The minimum is the least you can get by with. The maximum is the most you're capable of. The optimum is the amount or degree of anything that is most favorable toward the ends you desire." -- Nido Qubein
"Truly, it is in darkness that one finds the light, so when we are in sorrow, then this light is nearest of all to us"- Meister Eckhart
"Watch your manner of speech if you wish to develop a peaceful state of mind. Start each day by affirming peaceful, contented and happy attitudes and your days will tend to be pleasant and successful." -- Norman Vincent Peale
"We must learn to help those who deserve it, not just those who need it. Life responds to deserve not need."
"What one skill, if you developed it, could have the greatest positive impact on your career? This is the key to your future." -- Brian Tracy
"What we think or what we believe is, in the end, of little consequence. The only thing of consequence is what we do." -- John Ruskin
"What you want will pull like a magnet. Here's the other part. What for? Purpose is stronger than object. It's the 'What for?' that's even more powerful than the object. And the more you can describe in detail to stir the emotion and the intellect and the spirit and the soul, then the more powerful the 'what for' is."
"When I hear somebody sigh, 'Life is hard,' I am always tempted to ask, 'Compared to what?'" -- Sydney Harris
"When you cannot make up your mind which of two evenly balanced courses of action you should take -- choose the bolder."
"Work joyfully and peacefully, knowing that right thoughts and right efforts will inevitably bring about right results." -- James Allen
"You can have everything in life you want if you will just help enough other people get what they want."
"You have to decide what your highest priorities are and have the courage -- pleasantly, smilingly, non-apologetically -- to say 'no' to other things. And the way you do that is by having a bigger 'yes' burning inside. The enemy of the 'best' is often the 'good.'" -- Stephen Covey
[Another] important factor in overcoming fear-complete trust in God.
“Son, if you’re in something, get in it. If you’re not in it, get out. If you’re not giving your best effort, you’re not being fair to the man you’re working for, and you’re not being fair to yourself.”
A couple cannot survive if one person always makes decisions independent of the other. It takes longer to make a decision if you insist on discussion that produces unity, but it removes the danger of hasty decisions that can cause a couple future problems in their marriage.
A man needs to recognize the tremendous worth of his wife. Women have two incredibly important capacities because of the special way they're created. First, they have an intuitive desire to build meaningful relationships with those in their lives. Not only that, but they also have the capacity to recognize a healthy and intimate relationship. In a practical way, this means that a woman carries inside her a built-in marriage manual!
A true friend is somebody who can make us do what we can. Ralph Waldo Emerson (1803-1882, American poet, essayist)
A vigorous five mile walk will do more good for an unhappy, but otherwise healthy adult than all the medicine and psychology in the world. Paul Dudley White
Accept failure as a normal part of living. View it as part of the process of exploring your world; make a note of its lessons and move on. Tom Hobson
Accept fate, and move on. Don't yield to the seductive pull of self-pity. Acting like a victim threatens your future.
Accept the challenges so that you may feel the exhilaration of victory. George S. Patton (1885-1945, American army general during World War II)
Acceptance of what has happened is the first step to overcoming the consequences of any misfortune. William James (1842-1910, American psychologist, professor, author)
Accomplishment is easiest when we work the hardest, and it is hardest when we work the easiest.
Achievement is not always success, while reputed failure often is. It is honest endeavor, persistent effort to do the best possible under any and all circumstances. Orison Swett Marden (1850-1924, American author, founder of Success Magazine)
Acquire new knowledge whilst thinking over the old, and you may become a teacher of others. Confucius (BC 551-479, Chinese ethical teacher, philosopher)
Acquire the courage to believe in yourself. Many of the things that you have been taught were at one time the radical ideas of individuals who had the courage to believe what their own hearts and minds told them was true, rather than accept the common beliefs of their day. Ching Ning Chu (Chinese-American businesswoman, lecturer, author)
Act as if you were already happy, and that will tend to make you - Dale Carnegie (1888-1955, American trainer, author, "How to Win Friends and Influence People")
Action springs not from thought, but from a readiness for responsibility. Dietrich Bonhoeffer (1906-1945, German Lutheran pastor and theologian)
Actions are the seed of fate deeds grow into destiny. A. L. Linall Jr. (1947-, American editor)
Added benefits of drive through talking: (a) Gives you a chance to fully understand what the other person is saying before you respond. This also prevents tuning out the other person while he or she is talking. (b) Validates the other person and his or her opinions. When you not only listen but also repeat back what someone says, you communicate that the person and his or her opinions are important to you and worth taking seriously.
Adopting the right attitude can convert a negative stress into a positive one. Hans Selye (1907-1982, Canadian physician born in Austria, research on stress)
After you've done a thing the same way for two years, look it over carefully. After five years, look at it with suspicion. And after ten years, throw it away and start all over. Alfred Edward Perlman
Age does not depend upon years, but upon temperament and health. Some men are born old, and some never grow up. Tryon Edwards (1809-1894, American theologian)
Aim above morality. Be not simply good, be good for something. Henry David Thoreau (1817-1862, American essayist, poet, naturalist)
Aim for your star, no matter how far, you must reach high above and touch your life with love, you must never look back, but charge on! Attack! See your goal your star of desire, see it red hot, feel it burning, you must be obsessed with it to make it your true yearning, be ready my friends for when you truly believe it, you will certainly achieve it and by all of God’s universal laws you will always receive it! Bob Smith (American editor, author, founder of Orison Swett Marden Foundation)
All excellence involves discipline and tenacity of purpose. John W. Gardner (1912-2002, American educator, social activist)
All good work is done the way ants do things, little by little. Lafcadio Hearn (1850-1904 Greek writer and translator)
All great deeds and all great thoughts have a ridiculous beginning. Albert Camus (1913-1960, French existential writer)
All life demands struggle. Those who have everything given to them become lazy, selfish, and insensitive to the real values of life. The very striving and hard work that we so constantly try to avoid is the major building block in the person we are today. Ralph Ransom All of man's troubles come from his inability to sit alone, quietly, in a room, for any length of time. Blaise Pascal (1623-1662, French scientist, religious philosopher)
All that you accomplish or fail to accomplish with your life is the direct result of your thoughts. James Allen (1864-1912, British-born American essayist, author, "As A Man Thinketh")
And if I may be so bold to offer my last piece of advice for someone seeking and needing to make changes in their life--if you don't like how things are, change it! You're not a tree. You have the ability to totally transform every area in your life--and it all begins with your very own power of choice.
Anger creates distance, and distance destroys relationships. It causes husbands and wives and parents and children to drift away from each other. Home becomes little more than a dormitory with hostile roommates.
Do not be threatened by the presence of conflict, but use it as a flashing road sign that gets your attention to do whatever is necessary to resolve it at some point.
Do not fear sudden calamity if you are walking uprightly before God. It may be setting the stage for a great victory that will bring praise and honor to your heavenly Father. These battles are training grounds for greater victories to come.
Don't allow guilt to overwhelm you when you notice negative emotional signals flashing. Rather, make a decision to use those signals as a motivation to evaluate and change your focus.
Don't judge each day by the harvest you reap, but by the seeds you plant."
Either you reach a higher point today, or you exercise your strength in order to be able to climb higher tomorrow. Friedrich Nietzsche (1844-1900, German philosopher)
Every man has tremendous value. It's hidden at times, perhaps, but always there -- a worth based on the incredible impact he has on every member of the family through his everyday actions and attitudes. Encourage him to remember how important he is and to make that impact positive and affirming.
Everyone is kneaded out of the same dough, but not baked in the same oven. Yiddish Proverb
Everyone must row with the oars they have. English Proverb (Sayings of British origin)
Great ability develops and reveals itself increasingly with every new assignment." -- Baltasar Gracion
Great things are not done by impulse, but by a series of small things brought together. Vincent Van Gogh (1853-1890, Dutch-born French painter)
He who asks of life nothing but the improvement of his own nature… is less liable than anyone else to miss and waste life.Henri Frederic Amiel (1821-1881, Swiss philosopher, poet, critic)
If you have nothing else to do, look at yourself and see if there isn't something close at hand that you can improve. It may make you wealthy, although it is more likely it will make you happy. George M. Adams (1878-1962, American author)
If you want to sail your ship in a different direction, you must turn one degree at a time." -- Brian Tracy
It is time for us all to stand and cheer for the doer, the achiever -- the one who recognizes the challenges and does something about it. Vince Lombardi (1913-1970, American football coach)
Life has a practice of leaving you unexpectedly, so live it to the fullest while you can
Many people complain that their mate is strangely silent when they do something above and beyond the norm. We need to give praise and thanks to each other for special acts of kindness.
One simple way to honor your wife is by regularly showing that you appreciate her. Specific words of praise always score major points. Flattery is insincere or excessive praise. It's rooted in motives of self-interest; it implies you want something from her. True praise, on the other hand, focuses more on character qualities and is not self-serving.
Others have done it before me. I can, too. Corporal John Faunce (American soldier)
Our greatest joy and satisfaction comes from the act of giving. - Leo Buscaglia
Refrain from confronting your husband's deficiencies in anger. A man has a tendency to fight his conscience, and if you become his conscience, he'll either fight you or flee from you. Whichever route he takes, you've failed in your desire to spend more time with him.
So many men and woman treat each other as objects to be used. They may not verbalize it, but they maintain an inward conviction that their mate should do things that have never been discussed. This is like steadily pouring acid on intimacy.
The key to a close-knit marriage is maximizing the times together and minimizing the times apart. Our culture has a tendency to emphasize "doing your own thing" rather than marital closeness. The more activities you can do as a couple, the better the chances are that you'll develop a deep, lasting relationship.
The pain we feel for others helps us move forward in our personal journey into maturity. Additional benefits include heightened thoughtfulness, gentleness, carefulness, kindness, patience, and self-control.
The Spirit-filled person is one who seeks to do the will of God and lives by faith drawing upon the supernatural resources of God the Holy Spirit for every attitude, motive and desire of his life. - b. bright
The successful apology dissolves anger and humiliation. It shows respect, builds trust, and helps prevent further misunderstanding. A sincere apology makes it much easier to forgive."
The true test of character is... how we behave when we don't know what to do. John Holt (1908-1967, Australian Prime Minister)
The words of your mouth are a creative force. They play a big part in predestining your future. Your words are the architects of your life. The tongue is like a tool. We need to use our tools of the present to build our future we desire.
To associate with other like-minded people in small purposeful groups is for the great majority of men and women a source of profound psychological satisfaction. Aldous Huxley (1894-1963, British author)
Too many of us are not living our dreams because we are living our fears. Les Brown (1945-, American speaker, author, trainer, motivator
true apology depends on the three Rs: regret, responsibility, and remedy.
We cannot allow our errors in judgment, repeated every day, to lead us down the wrong path. We must keep coming back to those basics that make the biggest difference in how our life works out. And then we must make the very choices that will bring life, happiness and joy into our daily lives.
We created our circumstances by our past choices. We have both the ability and the responsibility to make better choices beginning today.
We should instead discuss our roles in marriage and what areas we can encourage each other to do. We should choose areas based on genuine love and not on expectations that have never been discussed.
What we achieve inwardly will change outer reality. Otto Rank (1884-1939, Austrian-born psychoanalyst)
When one has the feeling of dislike for evil, when one feels tranquil, one finds pleasure in listening to good teachings; when one has these feelings and appreciates them, one is free of fear. Buddha (568-488 BC, Indian born, founder of Buddhism)
When you are young and without success, you have only a few friends. Then, later on, when you are rich and famous, you still have a few... if you are lucky. Pablo Picasso (1881-1973, Spanish artist)
Work like you don't need the money. Love like you've never been hurt. Dance like nobody is watching." -- Mark Twain
You always project on the outside how you feel on the inside." -- Denis Waitley
The true test of character is... how we behave when we don't know what to do. John Holt (1908-1967, Australian Prime Minister)
Throw a resourceful person into a river, and he will probably come out with a fish in his hand. Arabian Proverb
Big results require big ambitions. James Champy (American author and international management consultant)
You can do what you want to do, sometimes you can do it even than you thought you could. Jimmy Carter (1924-, American President (39th))
The applause of a single human being is of great consequence. Samuel Johnson (1709-1784, British author)
Abundance is not something we acquire. It is something we tune into. Wayne Dyer (1940-, American psychotherapist, author, lecturer)
Nobody grows old merely by living a number of years. We grow old by deserting our ideals. Samuel Ullman (1840-1924, German-born American educator, writer, poet)
I am not concerned that I am not known, I seek to be worthy to be known. Confucius (BC 551-479, Chinese ethical teacher, philosopher)
All human actions have one or more of these seven causes: chance, nature, compulsions, habit, reason, passion, desire. Aristotle (BC 384-322, Greek philosopher)
I had to pick myself up and get on with it, do it all over again, only even better this time. Sam Walton (1918-1992, American businessman, founder of Wal-mart)
Age is a matter of feeling, not of years. George William Curtis (1824-1892, American journalist)
Measure yourself by your best moments, not by your worst. We are too prone to judge ourselves by our moments of despondency and depression. Robert Johnson
The trouble is, if you don't risk anything, you risk even more. Erica Jong, (1942-, American author)
The superior man understands what is right; the inferior man understands what will sell. Confucius, (BC 551-479, Chinese ethical teacher, philosopher)
Surround yourself with only people who are going to lift you higher. Oprah Winfrey
Never let your failures go to your heart or your successes go to your head.
Attitude is more important than the past, than education, than money, than circumstances, than what people do or say. It is more important than appearance, giftedness, or skill. Charles Swindoll(1934-, American pastor, author)
If you can command yourself, you can command the world. Chinese Proverb
The worst loneliness is not to be comfortable with yourself. Mark Twain (1835-1910, American humorist, writer)
You create your opportunities by asking for them. Patty Hansen (American author, wife of Mark Victor Hansen)
Associate yourself with men of good quality if you esteem your own reputation. It is better be alone than in bad company. George Washington (1732-1799, American President (1st))
Develop an attitude of gratitude, and give thanks for everything that happens to you, knowing that every step forward is a step toward achieving something bigger and better than your current situation. Brian Tracy(1944-, Canadian-born American trainer, speaker, author, businessman)
Never hurry. Take plenty of exercise. Always be cheerful. Take all the sleep you need. You may expect to be well. James Freeman Clarke (1810-1888, American minister, theologian)
There are no menial jobs, only menial attitudes. William John Bennett (1943-, American federal official)
Champions know that success is inevitable, that there is no suchthing as failure, only feedback. They know that the best way to forecast the future is to create it. Michael J. Gelb (American peak performance expert, author, trainer)
Until you value yourself, you will not value your time. Until you value your time, you will not do anything with it. M. Scott Peck
If you are always dwelling in trouble, change your address. American Proverb
Monday, July 18, 2005
Monday, July 4
Finding Treasures in Trials...
Begin to treasure hunt as soon as possible and as long as you're able. This isn't something you do for just a short time after a trial; you continue doing it until your thinking actually changes and you realize the positive results of your positive thinking. You'll have a victory over your pain when you see the benefits of the event and have feelings of greater love and self-worth.
- From "It Takes Two to Tango" by Gary and Norma Smalley
Honoring Your Wife...
Your wife has "fences" that protect her privacy or need for emotional space. When you respect these boundaries, it shows that you honor her requests.
Most women report that they need to feel emotionally connected to enjoy physical intimacy. They need to feel loved and cherished. They need displays of physical affection, but not necessarily the sex act itself. Men, however, are motivated by the sexual act. They need sexual intimacy and state that physical affection and feeling cherished aren't always necessary for them to feel sexually satisfied. However, men still need affection and cherishing in the overall relationship.
- From "It Takes Two to Tango" by Gary and Norma Smalley
Keeping Alive Romance and Security...
Design togetherness times that incorporate your spouse's interests. These may involve athletic events, musical concerts, museum trips, meals out, fine arts and entertainment, vacations and so on.
Keeping Alive Romance and Security...
When used correctly, the differences in the way men and women respond to sex can complement each other. When not taken into consideration, these differences will tear apart the very fabric of your mutual fulfillment. Decide to stop waiting for things to get better. Only the two of you working together toward love will make the intimate difference. Acquire and practice new attitudes and skills that lead to fulfilling relationships.
Honoring Your Husband...
By diminishing your expectations--by not expecting your husband to provide a level of fulfillment that only God can give--you free your husband of a burden you otherwise force him to bear, and you free yourself from unnecessary disappointment. This doesn't mean ignoring your needs or wants, just getting rid of your time limit and preconceived ideas about when and how those expectations will be met.
Finding Treasures in Trials...
Whenever we're hit with a trial, if we don't allow ourselves to become angry and bitter, we'll become much more empathetic toward others who are experiencing similar problems and more sensitive to their feelings. All these things make us more loving and a better friend.
Honoring Your Husband...
Never belittle your husband's job or the importance of his activities at work. Nothing destroys a man's self-esteem more than to hear his wife cutting down his efforts to support her. And remember that being ignorant of what he does on the job may, in his eyes, be the same as belittling his work.
There are five keys or attitudes that open a closed spirit:
-Become gentle; demonstrate tenderheartedness. -Understand what the other person has gone through, listeningcarefully not only to what is said, but also to how it issaid. What has caused the anger?-Acknowledge that the person is hurting, and admit when you havebeen offensive.-Touch the other person gently.-Ask for forgiveness.
- From "It Takes Two to Tango" by Gary and Norma Smalley
Honoring Your Wife...
Recognize your wife's uniqueness. Because men and women are created differently, we need each other in order to grow toward maturity and balance. A woman may have more intuitive relational skills, but one of the strengths of a man is that he can decide to draw on those skills by asking probing questions like these: On a scale of 1 to 10, 1 being the worst and 10 the best, where do we want our relationship to be? Where is it, in general, today? What could we do in the next several days or weeks to bring our relationship closer to where we want it to be?
Learning to Communicate...
Work to avoid judgmental attitudes like "How stupid!" Oh, no, that would never work" or "You'll never understand!" If you criticize your mate in a condescending manner, you're actually pushing him or her further away from you. No one enjoys being with a disrespectful person (Proverbs 21:19).
- From "It Takes Two to Tango" by Gary and Norma Smalley
Increasing Your Intimacy 100 Percent...
Persistent love--like the dripping of water on a rock--can wear away a person's resistance. It's nearly impossible to stay angry with or emotionally distant from someone who unconditionally loves and values you.
Honoring Your Husband...
Don't feel hurt and condemn your husband because he doesn't speak the "language of relationships" very well. To him, it's like a foreign language. Instead, help him learn to use it as fluently as you do.
Tuesday, July 12
Increasing Your Intimacy 100 Percent...
One way to cherish our mates is to help them become fulfilled as people. We can do this by discovering their personal goals and looking for ways to help them reach those objectives. We all love to know someone is pulling for us.
Resolving Conflict and Dealing with Anger...
Keeping our "heads together" in stressful times is something like a foxhole experience. Those who have endured the horrors of trench warfare often remain friends for life, even though their ordeal may have lasted only a few weeks or months. Why? Because shared experiences, whether pleasant or unpleasant, creates the common ground in which deep-rooted relationships germinate and grow. The greater the intensity of the experience, the greater the potential for bonds of love and intimacy that can bind us to one another in a beautiful relationship called a close-knit family.
Learning to Communicate...
One of the easiest ways to reduce misunderstandings and communication friction is to share only a few thoughts with someone and then allow the person to repeat back what he or she thinks you said, much as would happen when you place an order at a fast food drive-through. This method will also improve your listening skills.
Resolving Conflict and Dealing with Anger...
Because a woman's need for a close, meaningful relationship is often greater than a man's, she is more sensitive to words and actions that can weaken a relationship.
Finding Treasures in Trials...
Allow yourself to grieve over any pain from discomforting experiences. Though I urge you to keep an optimistic outlook when confronted with a negative experience, it's still important to allow yourself to figure out what took place, analyze how it makes you feel, and sense the pain associated with the event. If you don't take this step, you can fall into denial and stuff the feelings so deep that you think you've solved the problem.
Honoring Your Husband...
When your husband disciplines one of your children, avoid the temptation to criticize him in front of the child or defend the child's action that provoked the correction. The first step in developing a calm attitude is to control your tendency to overreact.
Honoring Your Wife...
If you want to be considered great by your wife, start by learning to become a servant. Any time you promote her program or agenda over yours--without grumbling or complaining--you are sacrificially loving her.
Learning to Communicate...
The salt principle is a method of gaining and holding a person's attention by arousing curiosity. It's a way to create a thirst for constructive conversation in which both you and your spouse can learn about each other's needs. First, identify the need or concern to be discussed, and then identify areas of high interest to the other person--areas you can tap into to pique interest.
For HimRomantic Gestures:Write special notes of love and appreciation and hide them in places where your wife will eventually find them (i.e., dresser drawers, books she is reading, the microwave, her jewelry box, etc.).
---Excerpted from "Simply Romantic Ideas: 150 Fun and Creative Ways to Romance Your Wife" edited by Leslie J. Barner. Used with permission. Copyright 1998 by FamilyLife. All rights reserved.
For HimRomantic Gestures:Phone her every day for one week and describe a part of her body that you like, and why; or a spiritual quality she possesses, and how she demonstrates it (each day choosing a different quality or part).
For HimRomantic Gestures:Leave a single rose (of a unique color) with a love note (telling her how special she is to you) where she can find it after you've left for work.
---For HimRomantic Gestures:On Labor Day, clean the house for your wife.
For HimRomantic Gestures:Have a bubble bath and her favorite music or book ready for her after an especially hard day. Give her a massage. Then let her go to sleep.
For HimRomantic Questions:What three ingredients are a must for a romantic evening?
For HimRomantic Questions:What are three things that I say or do that make you feel close to me? What are three things that I say or do that distance you from me?
For HimRomantic Questions:What is the funniest or most embarrassing thing that has ever happened to us (a time when we laughed really hard together)?
For HimRomantic Questions:How are we doing at dealing with conflict in our home? How can we improve?
For HimRomantic Questions:What part of my face do you like most?
For HimRomantic Questions:On a scale of 1 to 10, how would you rate the quality of our time together? Why?
For HimRomantic Questions:What has God been teaching you lately?
For HimRomantic Questions:What kind of friend do you most need me to be?
For HimRomantic Getaways:Take your wife on a surprise trip to a bed and breakfast in a romantic setting. Go on Friday night and enjoy a romantic evening with dinner, soft music, and slow dancing. On Saturday, after a hearty breakfast, spend the day setting and reviewing goals (family, marital, personal, spiritual, business, etc.) and planning your calendars for the next six months. Then on Sunday, worship the Lord and pray together, communicating with the Lord about your plans and goals.
---
For HimRomantic Getaways:Make weekend arrangements for your children, pack bags for the two of you, and ask the sitter to arrive at the same time you plan to kidnap your wife. Then, take her to a surprise destination that will include a weekend stay at a nice hotel and tickets to a stage play or concert.
For HimRomantic Getaways:Go back to a place you went when you were newlyweds and stay overnight. Be sure to bring pictures from that time and take a romantic trip down memory lane together.
---
For HimRomantic Gift Ideas:Present her a "Journal of My Love for You" – a journal that you fill with dated love letters written to your wife over a period of time.
---
Finding Treasures in Trials...
Begin to treasure hunt as soon as possible and as long as you're able. This isn't something you do for just a short time after a trial; you continue doing it until your thinking actually changes and you realize the positive results of your positive thinking. You'll have a victory over your pain when you see the benefits of the event and have feelings of greater love and self-worth.
- From "It Takes Two to Tango" by Gary and Norma Smalley
Honoring Your Wife...
Your wife has "fences" that protect her privacy or need for emotional space. When you respect these boundaries, it shows that you honor her requests.
Most women report that they need to feel emotionally connected to enjoy physical intimacy. They need to feel loved and cherished. They need displays of physical affection, but not necessarily the sex act itself. Men, however, are motivated by the sexual act. They need sexual intimacy and state that physical affection and feeling cherished aren't always necessary for them to feel sexually satisfied. However, men still need affection and cherishing in the overall relationship.
- From "It Takes Two to Tango" by Gary and Norma Smalley
Keeping Alive Romance and Security...
Design togetherness times that incorporate your spouse's interests. These may involve athletic events, musical concerts, museum trips, meals out, fine arts and entertainment, vacations and so on.
Keeping Alive Romance and Security...
When used correctly, the differences in the way men and women respond to sex can complement each other. When not taken into consideration, these differences will tear apart the very fabric of your mutual fulfillment. Decide to stop waiting for things to get better. Only the two of you working together toward love will make the intimate difference. Acquire and practice new attitudes and skills that lead to fulfilling relationships.
Honoring Your Husband...
By diminishing your expectations--by not expecting your husband to provide a level of fulfillment that only God can give--you free your husband of a burden you otherwise force him to bear, and you free yourself from unnecessary disappointment. This doesn't mean ignoring your needs or wants, just getting rid of your time limit and preconceived ideas about when and how those expectations will be met.
Finding Treasures in Trials...
Whenever we're hit with a trial, if we don't allow ourselves to become angry and bitter, we'll become much more empathetic toward others who are experiencing similar problems and more sensitive to their feelings. All these things make us more loving and a better friend.
Honoring Your Husband...
Never belittle your husband's job or the importance of his activities at work. Nothing destroys a man's self-esteem more than to hear his wife cutting down his efforts to support her. And remember that being ignorant of what he does on the job may, in his eyes, be the same as belittling his work.
There are five keys or attitudes that open a closed spirit:
-Become gentle; demonstrate tenderheartedness. -Understand what the other person has gone through, listeningcarefully not only to what is said, but also to how it issaid. What has caused the anger?-Acknowledge that the person is hurting, and admit when you havebeen offensive.-Touch the other person gently.-Ask for forgiveness.
- From "It Takes Two to Tango" by Gary and Norma Smalley
Honoring Your Wife...
Recognize your wife's uniqueness. Because men and women are created differently, we need each other in order to grow toward maturity and balance. A woman may have more intuitive relational skills, but one of the strengths of a man is that he can decide to draw on those skills by asking probing questions like these: On a scale of 1 to 10, 1 being the worst and 10 the best, where do we want our relationship to be? Where is it, in general, today? What could we do in the next several days or weeks to bring our relationship closer to where we want it to be?
Learning to Communicate...
Work to avoid judgmental attitudes like "How stupid!" Oh, no, that would never work" or "You'll never understand!" If you criticize your mate in a condescending manner, you're actually pushing him or her further away from you. No one enjoys being with a disrespectful person (Proverbs 21:19).
- From "It Takes Two to Tango" by Gary and Norma Smalley
Increasing Your Intimacy 100 Percent...
Persistent love--like the dripping of water on a rock--can wear away a person's resistance. It's nearly impossible to stay angry with or emotionally distant from someone who unconditionally loves and values you.
Honoring Your Husband...
Don't feel hurt and condemn your husband because he doesn't speak the "language of relationships" very well. To him, it's like a foreign language. Instead, help him learn to use it as fluently as you do.
Tuesday, July 12
Increasing Your Intimacy 100 Percent...
One way to cherish our mates is to help them become fulfilled as people. We can do this by discovering their personal goals and looking for ways to help them reach those objectives. We all love to know someone is pulling for us.
Resolving Conflict and Dealing with Anger...
Keeping our "heads together" in stressful times is something like a foxhole experience. Those who have endured the horrors of trench warfare often remain friends for life, even though their ordeal may have lasted only a few weeks or months. Why? Because shared experiences, whether pleasant or unpleasant, creates the common ground in which deep-rooted relationships germinate and grow. The greater the intensity of the experience, the greater the potential for bonds of love and intimacy that can bind us to one another in a beautiful relationship called a close-knit family.
Learning to Communicate...
One of the easiest ways to reduce misunderstandings and communication friction is to share only a few thoughts with someone and then allow the person to repeat back what he or she thinks you said, much as would happen when you place an order at a fast food drive-through. This method will also improve your listening skills.
Resolving Conflict and Dealing with Anger...
Because a woman's need for a close, meaningful relationship is often greater than a man's, she is more sensitive to words and actions that can weaken a relationship.
Finding Treasures in Trials...
Allow yourself to grieve over any pain from discomforting experiences. Though I urge you to keep an optimistic outlook when confronted with a negative experience, it's still important to allow yourself to figure out what took place, analyze how it makes you feel, and sense the pain associated with the event. If you don't take this step, you can fall into denial and stuff the feelings so deep that you think you've solved the problem.
Honoring Your Husband...
When your husband disciplines one of your children, avoid the temptation to criticize him in front of the child or defend the child's action that provoked the correction. The first step in developing a calm attitude is to control your tendency to overreact.
Honoring Your Wife...
If you want to be considered great by your wife, start by learning to become a servant. Any time you promote her program or agenda over yours--without grumbling or complaining--you are sacrificially loving her.
Learning to Communicate...
The salt principle is a method of gaining and holding a person's attention by arousing curiosity. It's a way to create a thirst for constructive conversation in which both you and your spouse can learn about each other's needs. First, identify the need or concern to be discussed, and then identify areas of high interest to the other person--areas you can tap into to pique interest.
For HimRomantic Gestures:Write special notes of love and appreciation and hide them in places where your wife will eventually find them (i.e., dresser drawers, books she is reading, the microwave, her jewelry box, etc.).
---Excerpted from "Simply Romantic Ideas: 150 Fun and Creative Ways to Romance Your Wife" edited by Leslie J. Barner. Used with permission. Copyright 1998 by FamilyLife. All rights reserved.
For HimRomantic Gestures:Phone her every day for one week and describe a part of her body that you like, and why; or a spiritual quality she possesses, and how she demonstrates it (each day choosing a different quality or part).
For HimRomantic Gestures:Leave a single rose (of a unique color) with a love note (telling her how special she is to you) where she can find it after you've left for work.
---For HimRomantic Gestures:On Labor Day, clean the house for your wife.
For HimRomantic Gestures:Have a bubble bath and her favorite music or book ready for her after an especially hard day. Give her a massage. Then let her go to sleep.
For HimRomantic Questions:What three ingredients are a must for a romantic evening?
For HimRomantic Questions:What are three things that I say or do that make you feel close to me? What are three things that I say or do that distance you from me?
For HimRomantic Questions:What is the funniest or most embarrassing thing that has ever happened to us (a time when we laughed really hard together)?
For HimRomantic Questions:How are we doing at dealing with conflict in our home? How can we improve?
For HimRomantic Questions:What part of my face do you like most?
For HimRomantic Questions:On a scale of 1 to 10, how would you rate the quality of our time together? Why?
For HimRomantic Questions:What has God been teaching you lately?
For HimRomantic Questions:What kind of friend do you most need me to be?
For HimRomantic Getaways:Take your wife on a surprise trip to a bed and breakfast in a romantic setting. Go on Friday night and enjoy a romantic evening with dinner, soft music, and slow dancing. On Saturday, after a hearty breakfast, spend the day setting and reviewing goals (family, marital, personal, spiritual, business, etc.) and planning your calendars for the next six months. Then on Sunday, worship the Lord and pray together, communicating with the Lord about your plans and goals.
---
For HimRomantic Getaways:Make weekend arrangements for your children, pack bags for the two of you, and ask the sitter to arrive at the same time you plan to kidnap your wife. Then, take her to a surprise destination that will include a weekend stay at a nice hotel and tickets to a stage play or concert.
For HimRomantic Getaways:Go back to a place you went when you were newlyweds and stay overnight. Be sure to bring pictures from that time and take a romantic trip down memory lane together.
---
For HimRomantic Gift Ideas:Present her a "Journal of My Love for You" – a journal that you fill with dated love letters written to your wife over a period of time.
---
Wednesday, June 01, 2005
Keeping Alive Romance and Security...
How can we turn our negative thoughts to positive ones before they affect our sense of worth and become a hurtful part or our self-image? By developing a grateful attitude. One of the most attractive qualities a person can have is a spirit of gratefulness.
Honoring Your Wife...
A woman misses very little about her environment, which is probably the basis for that mysterious gift some have called intuition--and another reason a man should honor and value his wife.
Honoring Your Husband...
Keep a mental list of little things your husband does that save you time and effort, and thank him for them as often as possible. When he feels he's meeting the "small" as well as the big needs of his family, his self-respect increases, and he will often begin to feel a deeper love for his appreciative wife.
5/25Learning to Communicate...
Other approaches to criticism: Be soft--you can often say the hardest thing to someone, and he or she will receive it if you say it gently. Ask questions--help people discover for themselves what you're trying to say. Use word pictures.
Honoring Your Wife...
Valuing his wife's differences, and even taking the time to be a student of her needs, does not diminish the husband's leadership or responsibility in the family.
Resolving Conflict and Dealing with Anger...
Anger is inevitable in a marriage. Couples who gain skills at "keeping their spirits open" to each other and at dealing with anger in a constructive way take giant strides toward intimacy.
Honoring God...
Ungratefulness can be traced to a failure to find benefits in everything we experience and an unwillingness to trust God to fulfill our deepest needs.
Keeping Alive Romance and Security...
Romance is the process of keeping your courtship alive long after the wedding day.
Honoring Your Wife...
Because a woman's sense of value is so closely tied to the relationships around her, she's often gifted in helping her husband be more sensitive to what's really important beyond the immediate goal.
Resolving Conflict and Dealing with Anger...
Even when crises come from external sources, we must be careful not to close the spirits of those around us. When we are under stress, we can react harshly to our mate and close his or her spirit.
Loving Actions creative ways to show your love and strengthen your marriage
Increasing Your Intimacy 100 Percent...
Many men don't realize it, but more than 80 percent of a woman's need for meaningful touch is nonsexual. Sex does not begin in the bedroom. It actually starts in the everyday acts of truthfulness, consistency, kindness, touching, and talking that build a growing desire in a woman.
Honoring Your Husband...
Your husband needs to be made aware--in creative, loving ways--how to meet your needs. Remember, you're in the process of sharing with him how to love you, and he's in the process of learning. If you're on the same train, don't expect him to get to the destination before you do.
Finding Treasures in Trials...
Disappointed expectations confront us all. How we handle those disappointments will have a powerful impact on the peace and stability of our lives.
Learning to Communicate...
Words have awesome power to build us up or tear us down emotionally. Many people can clearly remember words of praise their parents spoke years ago. Others can remember negative, cutting words--in extraordinary detail.
Honoring God...
Learning what your spouse needs and looking for creative ways to meet those needs unlocks the door of serving. Genuine fulfillment comes through knowing and loving God first, and then through serving others in response to His love.
Honoring Your Husband...
You can motivate your husband to love you by learning to be a courageous, persistent, and patient wife. As a completer and helper, you will need courage to help motive change, gentle persistence to make sure it continues, and patience to wait on the Lord when change is long in coming.
Honoring Your Wife...
When she's expressing frustration, a woman doesn't need her husband's mouth, but his shoulder and arms.- From "It Takes Two to Tango" by Gary and Norma Smalley
Honoring God...
We dishonor God when we live with an attitude of ungratefulness. We know we're ungrateful when we are: constantly comparing what we have with the possessions or positions (or marriages) of others; continually complaining about the way "life" is treating us; always fearful, trying to manipulate others; and so on.
Learning to Communicate...
Communicate humility. At times, some people act as if they know all the answers. It's important that we be willing to learn and grow.
I
ncreasing Your Intimacy 100 Percent...
Keeping your written relationship menu posted in a prominent household location provides a continual reminder of which values and rules you're working toward. It generally takes about 30 days to start a new habit. So if you're regularly working on attaining your goals, it will only take a month before you notice significant changes in your relationship.
Increasing Your Intimacy 100 Percent...
One important way to build intimacy is to give frequent praise. The simplest way to make your spouse feel good is to say, "Well done!"
Resolving Conflict and Dealing with Anger...
Are you still hesitating to knock down old walls of anger and put in a doorway of tenderness to your home--a door that opens to energizing words, gentle touching, and courageous forgiving?
Finding Treasures in Trials...
Life's game plan includes some changes you can anticipate and plan on. But it will also be filled with sneaky speed bumps, strange detours, frustrating dead ends, sudden lane changes, and unscheduled exits. If you anticipate both the major "expected" changes as well as probable unexpected changes, you'll stand a better chance of reaching your destination...together.
How can we turn our negative thoughts to positive ones before they affect our sense of worth and become a hurtful part or our self-image? By developing a grateful attitude. One of the most attractive qualities a person can have is a spirit of gratefulness.
Honoring Your Wife...
A woman misses very little about her environment, which is probably the basis for that mysterious gift some have called intuition--and another reason a man should honor and value his wife.
Honoring Your Husband...
Keep a mental list of little things your husband does that save you time and effort, and thank him for them as often as possible. When he feels he's meeting the "small" as well as the big needs of his family, his self-respect increases, and he will often begin to feel a deeper love for his appreciative wife.
5/25Learning to Communicate...
Other approaches to criticism: Be soft--you can often say the hardest thing to someone, and he or she will receive it if you say it gently. Ask questions--help people discover for themselves what you're trying to say. Use word pictures.
Honoring Your Wife...
Valuing his wife's differences, and even taking the time to be a student of her needs, does not diminish the husband's leadership or responsibility in the family.
Resolving Conflict and Dealing with Anger...
Anger is inevitable in a marriage. Couples who gain skills at "keeping their spirits open" to each other and at dealing with anger in a constructive way take giant strides toward intimacy.
Honoring God...
Ungratefulness can be traced to a failure to find benefits in everything we experience and an unwillingness to trust God to fulfill our deepest needs.
Keeping Alive Romance and Security...
Romance is the process of keeping your courtship alive long after the wedding day.
Honoring Your Wife...
Because a woman's sense of value is so closely tied to the relationships around her, she's often gifted in helping her husband be more sensitive to what's really important beyond the immediate goal.
Resolving Conflict and Dealing with Anger...
Even when crises come from external sources, we must be careful not to close the spirits of those around us. When we are under stress, we can react harshly to our mate and close his or her spirit.
Loving Actions creative ways to show your love and strengthen your marriage
Increasing Your Intimacy 100 Percent...
Many men don't realize it, but more than 80 percent of a woman's need for meaningful touch is nonsexual. Sex does not begin in the bedroom. It actually starts in the everyday acts of truthfulness, consistency, kindness, touching, and talking that build a growing desire in a woman.
Honoring Your Husband...
Your husband needs to be made aware--in creative, loving ways--how to meet your needs. Remember, you're in the process of sharing with him how to love you, and he's in the process of learning. If you're on the same train, don't expect him to get to the destination before you do.
Finding Treasures in Trials...
Disappointed expectations confront us all. How we handle those disappointments will have a powerful impact on the peace and stability of our lives.
Learning to Communicate...
Words have awesome power to build us up or tear us down emotionally. Many people can clearly remember words of praise their parents spoke years ago. Others can remember negative, cutting words--in extraordinary detail.
Honoring God...
Learning what your spouse needs and looking for creative ways to meet those needs unlocks the door of serving. Genuine fulfillment comes through knowing and loving God first, and then through serving others in response to His love.
Honoring Your Husband...
You can motivate your husband to love you by learning to be a courageous, persistent, and patient wife. As a completer and helper, you will need courage to help motive change, gentle persistence to make sure it continues, and patience to wait on the Lord when change is long in coming.
Honoring Your Wife...
When she's expressing frustration, a woman doesn't need her husband's mouth, but his shoulder and arms.- From "It Takes Two to Tango" by Gary and Norma Smalley
Honoring God...
We dishonor God when we live with an attitude of ungratefulness. We know we're ungrateful when we are: constantly comparing what we have with the possessions or positions (or marriages) of others; continually complaining about the way "life" is treating us; always fearful, trying to manipulate others; and so on.
Learning to Communicate...
Communicate humility. At times, some people act as if they know all the answers. It's important that we be willing to learn and grow.
I
ncreasing Your Intimacy 100 Percent...
Keeping your written relationship menu posted in a prominent household location provides a continual reminder of which values and rules you're working toward. It generally takes about 30 days to start a new habit. So if you're regularly working on attaining your goals, it will only take a month before you notice significant changes in your relationship.
Increasing Your Intimacy 100 Percent...
One important way to build intimacy is to give frequent praise. The simplest way to make your spouse feel good is to say, "Well done!"
Resolving Conflict and Dealing with Anger...
Are you still hesitating to knock down old walls of anger and put in a doorway of tenderness to your home--a door that opens to energizing words, gentle touching, and courageous forgiving?
Finding Treasures in Trials...
Life's game plan includes some changes you can anticipate and plan on. But it will also be filled with sneaky speed bumps, strange detours, frustrating dead ends, sudden lane changes, and unscheduled exits. If you anticipate both the major "expected" changes as well as probable unexpected changes, you'll stand a better chance of reaching your destination...together.
Friday, April 15, 2005
It is never too late to be what you might have been.
George Eliot
(1819-1880, British novelist)
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In difficult situations, when hope seems feeble, the boldest
plans are safest.
Titus Livy
(BC 59-17 AD, Roman historian)
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If only every man would make proper use of his strength and do
his utmost, he need never regret his limited ability.
Marcus T. Cicero
(c. 106-43 BC, Roman orator, politician)
Procrastination is the thief of time: Year after year it steals, till all are fled, and to the mercies of a moment leaves the vast
concerns of an eternal scene.
Edward Young
(1683-1765, British poet, dramatist)
============================================.
The season of failure is the best time for sowing the seeds of
success.
Paramahansa Yogananda
(1893-1952, Indian spiritual author, lecturer)
------------------------------------------------------------
You have to "be" before you can "do," and do before you can
"have."
Zig Ziglar
(1926-, American sales trainer, author, motivational speaker)
============================================
One man can be a crucial ingredient on a team, but one man cannot
make a team.
------------------------------------------------------------
Luck? Sure. But only after long practice and only with the
ability to think under pressure.
Babe Didrikson
(1924-1956, American athlete)
.------------------------------------------------------------
The principle is competing against yourself. It's about self
improvement, about being better than you were the day before.
Steve Young
(1955-, American football player)
Think like a wise man but communicate in the language of the
people.
William Butler Yeats
(1865-1939, Irish poet, playwright)
*******************************
A true friend is the greatest of all blessings, and that which we
take the least care to acquire.
Francois De La Rochefoucauld
(1613-1680, French classical writer)
****************************
Everyone must row with the oars they have.
English Proverb
(Sayings of British origin)
============================================
George Eliot
(1819-1880, British novelist)
============================================
In difficult situations, when hope seems feeble, the boldest
plans are safest.
Titus Livy
(BC 59-17 AD, Roman historian)
============================================
If only every man would make proper use of his strength and do
his utmost, he need never regret his limited ability.
Marcus T. Cicero
(c. 106-43 BC, Roman orator, politician)
Procrastination is the thief of time: Year after year it steals, till all are fled, and to the mercies of a moment leaves the vast
concerns of an eternal scene.
Edward Young
(1683-1765, British poet, dramatist)
============================================.
The season of failure is the best time for sowing the seeds of
success.
Paramahansa Yogananda
(1893-1952, Indian spiritual author, lecturer)
------------------------------------------------------------
You have to "be" before you can "do," and do before you can
"have."
Zig Ziglar
(1926-, American sales trainer, author, motivational speaker)
============================================
One man can be a crucial ingredient on a team, but one man cannot
make a team.
------------------------------------------------------------
Luck? Sure. But only after long practice and only with the
ability to think under pressure.
Babe Didrikson
(1924-1956, American athlete)
.------------------------------------------------------------
The principle is competing against yourself. It's about self
improvement, about being better than you were the day before.
Steve Young
(1955-, American football player)
Think like a wise man but communicate in the language of the
people.
William Butler Yeats
(1865-1939, Irish poet, playwright)
*******************************
A true friend is the greatest of all blessings, and that which we
take the least care to acquire.
Francois De La Rochefoucauld
(1613-1680, French classical writer)
****************************
Everyone must row with the oars they have.
English Proverb
(Sayings of British origin)
============================================
Sunday, March 13, 2005
Avoiding the phrase 'I don’t have time...',
will soon help you to realize
that you do have the time needed
for just about anything
you choose to accomplish in life.
-- Bo Bennett --
Motivation is everything.
You can do the work of two people,
but you can't be two people.
Instead, you have to inspire
the next guy down the line
and get him to inspire his people.
-- Lee Iacocca --
Even though you may want
to move forward in your life,
you may have one foot on the brakes.
In order to be free,
you must learn how to let go.
Release the hurt. Release the fear.
Refuse to entertain your old pain.
The energy it takes to hang onto the past
is holding you back from a new life.
What is it you would let go of today?
-- Mary Manin Morrissey --
When you make a mistake,
don't look back at it long.
Take the reason of the thing into your mind
and then look forward.
Mistakes are lessons of wisdom.
The past cannot be changed.
The future is yet in your power.
-- Hugh White --
All your life you are told
the things you cannot do.
All your life they will say
you're not good enough
or strong enough or talented enough.
They will say you're the wrong height
or the wrong weight or the wrong type
to play this or be this or achieve this.
They will tell you no, a thousand times no,
until all the no's become meaningless.
All your life they will tell you no,
quite firmly and very quickly.
And you will tell them yes.
-- Nike Ad --
will soon help you to realize
that you do have the time needed
for just about anything
you choose to accomplish in life.
-- Bo Bennett --
Motivation is everything.
You can do the work of two people,
but you can't be two people.
Instead, you have to inspire
the next guy down the line
and get him to inspire his people.
-- Lee Iacocca --
Even though you may want
to move forward in your life,
you may have one foot on the brakes.
In order to be free,
you must learn how to let go.
Release the hurt. Release the fear.
Refuse to entertain your old pain.
The energy it takes to hang onto the past
is holding you back from a new life.
What is it you would let go of today?
-- Mary Manin Morrissey --
When you make a mistake,
don't look back at it long.
Take the reason of the thing into your mind
and then look forward.
Mistakes are lessons of wisdom.
The past cannot be changed.
The future is yet in your power.
-- Hugh White --
All your life you are told
the things you cannot do.
All your life they will say
you're not good enough
or strong enough or talented enough.
They will say you're the wrong height
or the wrong weight or the wrong type
to play this or be this or achieve this.
They will tell you no, a thousand times no,
until all the no's become meaningless.
All your life they will tell you no,
quite firmly and very quickly.
And you will tell them yes.
-- Nike Ad --
Friday, February 11, 2005
creative ways to show your love and strengthen your marriage
Increasing Your Intimacy 100 Percent...
"A marriage can't be sustained with romance alone. But added to security,
meaningful communication, and meaningful touch, it can be a tremendous source
of energy and growth."
- From "It Takes Two to Tango" by Gary and Norma Smalley
Keeping Alive Romance and Security...
"A gardener--nurturer--has a responsibility not only to find out what's wrong
with a plant, but also to do whatever is necessary to nurse it back to health.
In Ephesians 5:21-33, we see this picture as a role of the husband."
**************
Learning to Communicate...
"Healthy communication is the lifeblood of love. A relationship will only be
as good as its communication
**************
"Every enduring marriage involves an unconditional commitment to an imperfect
person--your spouse."
- From "It Takes Two to Tango" by Gary and Norma Small
------------------
Resolving Conflict and Dealing with Anger...
"There's no way to overcome our weaknesses without knowing our strengths.
Why? Almost without exception, our weaknesses are a reflection of our
strengths being pushed to an extreme."
****************************
Increasing Your Intimacy 100 Percent...
"Wise husbands and wives will take time to practice small acts of touching:
Holding hands in a walk through the mall, stopping to rub your mate's shoulders
for a moment, taking the time to gently hold your spouse at the door on your
way out. These small but important acts can work like 'superbloom' to a plant
and green out a relationship."
***************************
Keeping Alive Romance and Security...
"Every enduring marriage involves an unconditional commitment to an imperfect
person--your spouse."
----------------------
Finding Treasures in Trials...
"God's best and highest will is for us to love (value) Him with all our hearts,
and to love (value) others as ourselves. Do you realize you have everything
you need to fulfill God's will and experience His best in your life?"
--------------
Honoring Your Wife...
"Wives need consistent proof of change over a period of time in at least three
areas before they will believe their husband's commitment: careful listening
without justification or argument, quickness to admit error, and patience with
her doubts."
====================
Honoring Your Husband...
"Many men will do almost anything to gain the admiration of others. They will
literally search for someone to love and respect them. Make sure that someone
is you, their wife, and not someone else."
---------------------
Learning to Communicate...
"People who consistently use word pictures to point out the faults of others
are misusing this communication method. They may make you feel terrible with
their words and somehow convince you it's your fault. Word pictures are to be
used to covey how you feel, not to attack the other person."
----------------------
Resolving Conflict and Dealing with Anger...
"The most insecure people are those who can't distance themselves from their
loved ones enough to discipline them. Loving discipline may put a temporary
emotional distance between people, but if we balance that hard-side correction
with softness, we won't lose love. If anything, we'll enrich it."
---------------------
Increasing Your Intimacy 100 Percent...
"In a nurturing and healthy relationship, you perceive that your ideas and
insights are valuable, and you learn how to negotiate and listen to the other
person's views. You hear things like 'What a great idea!' 'What do you think
about this?' and 'Your opinion means so much to me.'"
--------------------------
Honoring Your Wife...
"Your goal should be to become a genuine, loving, and tender husband who does
not lecture. Lectures during stressful times only create more stress."
----------------------------
Finding Treasures in Trials...
"Sometimes the treasure is coated with corrosion, but if we do some scraping,
we begin to see its value. Thanksgiving expresses our faith that God can,
indeed, bring treasures out of trials, and faith adds muscle to the scraping
process, even in the worst of trials."
------------------------------
Honoring God...
"Whatever your goals and ambitions for improving your marriage, you must learn
the necessary skills, even though it may take years. Don't limit yourself and
God by dwelling on what you already know and can do."
---------------------
Honoring God...
"Many husbands and wives put their hopes for fulfillment in people or in
places, whether homes or vacation spots. To those thirsting for fulfillment,
these things look like a quenching pool of water. Yet once they reach them,
they find only the sand of a mirage. Only Christ gives everlasting
satisfaction."
*********************
Honoring Your Husband...
"If you truly expect to have meaningful communication with your husband, you
have to activate the right side of his brain so he can understand your
feelings. One of the best ways to do this is with a word picture."
**********************
Resolving Conflict and Dealing with Anger...
"How destructive bottled-up resentment can be! Anger has many tragic
consequences in a marriage. It creates distance and pushes us into darkness.
It can tie our emotions and decisions into knots."
**************************
Increasing Your Intimacy 100 Percent...
"When your spouse seeks to honor you, you're listened to and encouraged to
participate in discussions and decisions. You hear things like 'What did you
say?' 'You always know the right thing to say.' or 'Let's talk about this.'"
----------------------
Keeping Alive Romance and Security...
"A character of honesty and serving must be deep-rooted to survive; it reaches
way down into the soil of consistent living. It isn't a short-term change of
behavior that makes an impression on your mate; it's a life."
--------------------
Finding Treasures in Trials...
"Whenever I feel fear or worry, I thank the Lord for the feeling, then test the
following six reasons until I understand the source: the future, my reputation,
money, possessions, time, or health. After that, I submit the concern to
Him."
-----------------------
Increasing Your Intimacy 100 Percent...
"A marriage can't be sustained with romance alone. But added to security,
meaningful communication, and meaningful touch, it can be a tremendous source
of energy and growth."
- From "It Takes Two to Tango" by Gary and Norma Smalley
Keeping Alive Romance and Security...
"A gardener--nurturer--has a responsibility not only to find out what's wrong
with a plant, but also to do whatever is necessary to nurse it back to health.
In Ephesians 5:21-33, we see this picture as a role of the husband."
**************
Learning to Communicate...
"Healthy communication is the lifeblood of love. A relationship will only be
as good as its communication
**************
"Every enduring marriage involves an unconditional commitment to an imperfect
person--your spouse."
- From "It Takes Two to Tango" by Gary and Norma Small
------------------
Resolving Conflict and Dealing with Anger...
"There's no way to overcome our weaknesses without knowing our strengths.
Why? Almost without exception, our weaknesses are a reflection of our
strengths being pushed to an extreme."
****************************
Increasing Your Intimacy 100 Percent...
"Wise husbands and wives will take time to practice small acts of touching:
Holding hands in a walk through the mall, stopping to rub your mate's shoulders
for a moment, taking the time to gently hold your spouse at the door on your
way out. These small but important acts can work like 'superbloom' to a plant
and green out a relationship."
***************************
Keeping Alive Romance and Security...
"Every enduring marriage involves an unconditional commitment to an imperfect
person--your spouse."
----------------------
Finding Treasures in Trials...
"God's best and highest will is for us to love (value) Him with all our hearts,
and to love (value) others as ourselves. Do you realize you have everything
you need to fulfill God's will and experience His best in your life?"
--------------
Honoring Your Wife...
"Wives need consistent proof of change over a period of time in at least three
areas before they will believe their husband's commitment: careful listening
without justification or argument, quickness to admit error, and patience with
her doubts."
====================
Honoring Your Husband...
"Many men will do almost anything to gain the admiration of others. They will
literally search for someone to love and respect them. Make sure that someone
is you, their wife, and not someone else."
---------------------
Learning to Communicate...
"People who consistently use word pictures to point out the faults of others
are misusing this communication method. They may make you feel terrible with
their words and somehow convince you it's your fault. Word pictures are to be
used to covey how you feel, not to attack the other person."
----------------------
Resolving Conflict and Dealing with Anger...
"The most insecure people are those who can't distance themselves from their
loved ones enough to discipline them. Loving discipline may put a temporary
emotional distance between people, but if we balance that hard-side correction
with softness, we won't lose love. If anything, we'll enrich it."
---------------------
Increasing Your Intimacy 100 Percent...
"In a nurturing and healthy relationship, you perceive that your ideas and
insights are valuable, and you learn how to negotiate and listen to the other
person's views. You hear things like 'What a great idea!' 'What do you think
about this?' and 'Your opinion means so much to me.'"
--------------------------
Honoring Your Wife...
"Your goal should be to become a genuine, loving, and tender husband who does
not lecture. Lectures during stressful times only create more stress."
----------------------------
Finding Treasures in Trials...
"Sometimes the treasure is coated with corrosion, but if we do some scraping,
we begin to see its value. Thanksgiving expresses our faith that God can,
indeed, bring treasures out of trials, and faith adds muscle to the scraping
process, even in the worst of trials."
------------------------------
Honoring God...
"Whatever your goals and ambitions for improving your marriage, you must learn
the necessary skills, even though it may take years. Don't limit yourself and
God by dwelling on what you already know and can do."
---------------------
Honoring God...
"Many husbands and wives put their hopes for fulfillment in people or in
places, whether homes or vacation spots. To those thirsting for fulfillment,
these things look like a quenching pool of water. Yet once they reach them,
they find only the sand of a mirage. Only Christ gives everlasting
satisfaction."
*********************
Honoring Your Husband...
"If you truly expect to have meaningful communication with your husband, you
have to activate the right side of his brain so he can understand your
feelings. One of the best ways to do this is with a word picture."
**********************
Resolving Conflict and Dealing with Anger...
"How destructive bottled-up resentment can be! Anger has many tragic
consequences in a marriage. It creates distance and pushes us into darkness.
It can tie our emotions and decisions into knots."
**************************
Increasing Your Intimacy 100 Percent...
"When your spouse seeks to honor you, you're listened to and encouraged to
participate in discussions and decisions. You hear things like 'What did you
say?' 'You always know the right thing to say.' or 'Let's talk about this.'"
----------------------
Keeping Alive Romance and Security...
"A character of honesty and serving must be deep-rooted to survive; it reaches
way down into the soil of consistent living. It isn't a short-term change of
behavior that makes an impression on your mate; it's a life."
--------------------
Finding Treasures in Trials...
"Whenever I feel fear or worry, I thank the Lord for the feeling, then test the
following six reasons until I understand the source: the future, my reputation,
money, possessions, time, or health. After that, I submit the concern to
Him."
-----------------------
Tuesday, December 21, 2004
It is a great art to laught at your own misfortune. Danish Proverb ============================================
Health, happiness and success depend upon the fighting spirit of each person. The big thing is not what happens to us in life - but what we do about what happens to us. George Allen (American Football Coach)
============================================
One today is worth two tomorrows. Benjamin Franklin (1706-1790, American Scientist, Publisher, Diplomat)
============================================
Our kindness may be the most persuasive argument for that which we believe. Gordon B. Hinckley
============================================
The common tasks are beautiful if we have eyes to see their shining ministry. Grace Noll Crowell
============================================
The best of all things is to learn. Money can be lost or stolen, health and strength may fail, but what you have committed to your mind is yours forever. Louis L'Amour
============================================
The best thing to give to your enemy is forgiveness; to an opponent, tolerance; to a friend, your heart; to your child, a good example; to a father, deference; to your mother, conduct that will make her proud of you; to yourself, respect; to all men, charity. Francis Maitland Balfour
============================================
Tell me, I'll forget. Show me, I may remember. But involve me, and I'll understand. Chinese Proverb
============================================
The accumulation of small, optimistic acts produces quality in our culture and in your life. Our culture resonates in tense times to individual acts of grace. Jennifer James
============================================
The art of acceptance is the art of making someone who has just done you a small favor wish that he might have done you a greater one. Russell Lynes
============================================
Become a possibilitarian. No matter how dark things seem to be or actually are, raise your sights and see the possibilities - always see them, for they are always there. Norman Vincent Peale
============================================
Don't limit yourself. Many people limit themselves to what they think they can do. You can go as far as your mind lets you. What you believe, you can achieve! Mary Kay Ash
============================================
Live your imagination, not your history. Stephen Covey
============================================
You say grace before meals. All right. But I say grace before the concert and the opera, and grace before the play and pantomime, and grace before I open a book, and grace before sketching, painting, swimming, fencing, boxing, walking, playing, dancing and grace before I dip the pen in the ink. Gilbert K. Chesterton (1874-1936, British author
------------------------------------------------------------------
Great effort is required to arrest decay and restore vigor. One must exercise proper deliberation, plan carefully before making a move, and be alert in guarding against relapse following a renaissance. I Ching (12th century BC, Chinese book of changes)
============================================
There are no little events in life, those we think of no consequence may be full of fate, and it is at our own risk if we neglect the acquaintances and opportunities that seem to be casually offered, and of small importance. Amelia Barr
============================================
That's the risk you take if you change: that people you've been involved with won't like the new you. But other people who do will come along. Lisa Alther
============================================
Let us endeavor to live so that when we come to die even the undertaker will be sorry. Mark Twain (1835-1910, American humorist, writer)
============================================
Since you are like no other being ever created since the beginning of time, you are incomparable. Brenda Ueland
============================================
You are unique, and if that is not fulfilled then something has been lost. Martha Graham (1894-1991, American dancer, teacher, and choreographer)
============================================
We must accept finite disappointment, but we must never lose infinite hope. Martin Luther King, Jr. (1929-1968, American black leader, Nobel Prize winner, 1964)
============================================
Do not ask the Lord to guide your footsteps, If you are not willing to move your feet. Author Unknown
============================================
So what do we do? Anything. Something. So long as we just don't sit there. If we screw it up, start over. Try something else. If we wait until we've satisfied all the uncertainties, it may be too late. Lee Iacocca (1924-, American businessman, former CEO of Chrysler)
============================================
If you chase two hares at the same time, you will catch neither of them. Ukrainian Proverb
============================================
If you don't stand up for something, you may fall for anything. Les Brown (1945-, American speaker, author, trainer, motivator,)
============================================
Inaction breeds doubt and fear. Action breeds confidence and courage. If you want to conquer fear, do not sit at home and think about it. Go out and get busy. Dale Carnegie (1888-1955, American trainer, author, "How to Win Friends and Influence People")
===========================================
Health, happiness and success depend upon the fighting spirit of each person. The big thing is not what happens to us in life - but what we do about what happens to us. George Allen (American Football Coach)
============================================
One today is worth two tomorrows. Benjamin Franklin (1706-1790, American Scientist, Publisher, Diplomat)
============================================
Our kindness may be the most persuasive argument for that which we believe. Gordon B. Hinckley
============================================
The common tasks are beautiful if we have eyes to see their shining ministry. Grace Noll Crowell
============================================
The best of all things is to learn. Money can be lost or stolen, health and strength may fail, but what you have committed to your mind is yours forever. Louis L'Amour
============================================
The best thing to give to your enemy is forgiveness; to an opponent, tolerance; to a friend, your heart; to your child, a good example; to a father, deference; to your mother, conduct that will make her proud of you; to yourself, respect; to all men, charity. Francis Maitland Balfour
============================================
Tell me, I'll forget. Show me, I may remember. But involve me, and I'll understand. Chinese Proverb
============================================
The accumulation of small, optimistic acts produces quality in our culture and in your life. Our culture resonates in tense times to individual acts of grace. Jennifer James
============================================
The art of acceptance is the art of making someone who has just done you a small favor wish that he might have done you a greater one. Russell Lynes
============================================
Become a possibilitarian. No matter how dark things seem to be or actually are, raise your sights and see the possibilities - always see them, for they are always there. Norman Vincent Peale
============================================
Don't limit yourself. Many people limit themselves to what they think they can do. You can go as far as your mind lets you. What you believe, you can achieve! Mary Kay Ash
============================================
Live your imagination, not your history. Stephen Covey
============================================
You say grace before meals. All right. But I say grace before the concert and the opera, and grace before the play and pantomime, and grace before I open a book, and grace before sketching, painting, swimming, fencing, boxing, walking, playing, dancing and grace before I dip the pen in the ink. Gilbert K. Chesterton (1874-1936, British author
------------------------------------------------------------------
Great effort is required to arrest decay and restore vigor. One must exercise proper deliberation, plan carefully before making a move, and be alert in guarding against relapse following a renaissance. I Ching (12th century BC, Chinese book of changes)
============================================
There are no little events in life, those we think of no consequence may be full of fate, and it is at our own risk if we neglect the acquaintances and opportunities that seem to be casually offered, and of small importance. Amelia Barr
============================================
That's the risk you take if you change: that people you've been involved with won't like the new you. But other people who do will come along. Lisa Alther
============================================
Let us endeavor to live so that when we come to die even the undertaker will be sorry. Mark Twain (1835-1910, American humorist, writer)
============================================
Since you are like no other being ever created since the beginning of time, you are incomparable. Brenda Ueland
============================================
You are unique, and if that is not fulfilled then something has been lost. Martha Graham (1894-1991, American dancer, teacher, and choreographer)
============================================
We must accept finite disappointment, but we must never lose infinite hope. Martin Luther King, Jr. (1929-1968, American black leader, Nobel Prize winner, 1964)
============================================
Do not ask the Lord to guide your footsteps, If you are not willing to move your feet. Author Unknown
============================================
So what do we do? Anything. Something. So long as we just don't sit there. If we screw it up, start over. Try something else. If we wait until we've satisfied all the uncertainties, it may be too late. Lee Iacocca (1924-, American businessman, former CEO of Chrysler)
============================================
If you chase two hares at the same time, you will catch neither of them. Ukrainian Proverb
============================================
If you don't stand up for something, you may fall for anything. Les Brown (1945-, American speaker, author, trainer, motivator,)
============================================
Inaction breeds doubt and fear. Action breeds confidence and courage. If you want to conquer fear, do not sit at home and think about it. Go out and get busy. Dale Carnegie (1888-1955, American trainer, author, "How to Win Friends and Influence People")
===========================================
Loving Actions
creative ways to show your love and strengthen your marriage
Resolving Conflict and Dealing with Anger..."When you boil down a lot of destructive arguments, what you often find is a simple lack of facts. The conflicts begin when an individual sees something that bothers him and then draws a conclusion. But what he thinks he sees may not be true at all. There's nothing new about thisadvice. James, the Lord's brother, wrote, "My dear brothers, take noteof this: Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry" (James 1:19, NIV)."
creative ways to show your love and strengthen your marriage"
Here are some overall ways of building intimacy:
Stop waiting forthings to get better; make a decision to work on them. Acquire and practice new attitudes and skills that lead to fulfilling relationships.Commit to changing your own behaviors first, without expecting yourpartner to change his or hers. Support each other in your efforts sothat neither of you feels alone or inferior."
Keeping Alive Romance and Security..."A marriage needs security to grow and thrive. To use a different analogy, the first structural support that holds up a meaningful relationship is found in that one word - security."
Honoring God..."When Christ is in control, our negative emotions are replaced by an inner contentment and love that come only from Him."
Honoring Your Wife..."When a woman sees her husband's willingness to accept correction-a mark of someone who wants to gain wisdom-she's more willing to follow his leadership in the home because she values him more highly."
Finding Treasure in Trials..."'Treasure Hunting' (looking for gold in every trial or guilt experience) can help us form a genuine love or deeper sensitivity toward others who are hurting in a similar way. It can also help us forgive those who have wronged us and cause us to be less judgmental or critical, leading us to the door of God's grace."
Honoring Your Wife..."Promise to tell your wife daily what you appreciate about her. Promise yourself, not her, because she might develop expectations and be hurt ifyou forget."
Honoring Your Husband..."As a wife, you need to understand these differences between men and women: By nature, a woman tends to relate to others on a more personal level, while a man tends to be more challenge-and-conquer oriented....A woman finds much of her identity through her relationships, while a man usually finds his identity through his accomplishments....A woman is usually much more in touch with her emotions, but a man is primarily concerned with the 'facts.'...The average woman speaks nearly 25,000 words a day, while the average man speaks only around 12,500!"
Honoring God..."We know Christ is at the center of our relationships with others when negative emotions such as anger, hurt feelings, lust, and worry no longer control our lives."
Keeping Alive Romance and Security..."A marriage needs security to grow and thrive. To use a differentanalogy, the first structural support that holds up a meaningfulrelationship is found in that one word - security."
Finding Treasures in Trials..."No one likes trials, yet no one can escape them. We can let them ruinour lives-making us bitter, angry, and resentful-or we can look for thetreasure that will let us love and serve others."
Honoring Your Wife..."Promise to tell your wife daily what you appreciate about her. Promise yourself, not her, because she might develop expectations and be hurt if you forget."
Honoring Your Husband..."As a wife, you and your marriage will experience less stress if you understand that men tend to be challenge-oriented and often lose interest once they've "conquered" or met the challenge. That's why theycan be so romantic before marriage and afterward show little interest in romance."
Loving Actions creative ways to show your love and strengthen your marriage
How to be your wife's best friend:Learn the names of her friends and associates.
* * *How to be your husband's best friend:Be aware of his vision or goals and affirm them.
How to be your wife's best friend: Write her a love letter.
* * *How to be your husband's best friend:Do a crossword puzzle together.
How to be your wife's best friend:Select a charity you both support and make a special year-end gift in honor or memory of a person you both love(d).
* * *How to be your husband's best friend:Buy him some new clothes and wrap them as an "unbirthday" surprise.
Honoring Your Wife..."Husbands should realize that the words they speak to their wives have awesome power to build up or tear down emotionally. Affirming words are like light switches. To speak a word of affirmation at the right momentis like lighting up a whole roomful of possibilities."
Learning to Communicate..."An emotional word picture is a communication tool that uses a story orobject to activate simultaneously the emotions and the intellect of aperson. In so doing, it causes the person to experience our words, notjust hear them. A simple example of a word picture would be, 'My week so far has made me feel like a puppy picked up by the scruff of itsneck, because I feel carried along by circumstances beyond my control.'
The communication bridge between you and your spouse can be an emotional word picture, which can be a tremendous help in adding depth and impact to you conversations."
Increasing Your Intimacy 100 Percent..."It's crucial that we develop healthy relationships. Doctors have found that tension from a poor marriage or friendship can actually cause illness and shorten a person's life! Not only that, but our children also gain or suffer from the model we provide them every day."
creative ways to show your love and strengthen your marriage
Resolving Conflict and Dealing with Anger..."When you boil down a lot of destructive arguments, what you often find is a simple lack of facts. The conflicts begin when an individual sees something that bothers him and then draws a conclusion. But what he thinks he sees may not be true at all. There's nothing new about thisadvice. James, the Lord's brother, wrote, "My dear brothers, take noteof this: Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry" (James 1:19, NIV)."
creative ways to show your love and strengthen your marriage"
Here are some overall ways of building intimacy:
Stop waiting forthings to get better; make a decision to work on them. Acquire and practice new attitudes and skills that lead to fulfilling relationships.Commit to changing your own behaviors first, without expecting yourpartner to change his or hers. Support each other in your efforts sothat neither of you feels alone or inferior."
Keeping Alive Romance and Security..."A marriage needs security to grow and thrive. To use a different analogy, the first structural support that holds up a meaningful relationship is found in that one word - security."
Honoring God..."When Christ is in control, our negative emotions are replaced by an inner contentment and love that come only from Him."
Honoring Your Wife..."When a woman sees her husband's willingness to accept correction-a mark of someone who wants to gain wisdom-she's more willing to follow his leadership in the home because she values him more highly."
Finding Treasure in Trials..."'Treasure Hunting' (looking for gold in every trial or guilt experience) can help us form a genuine love or deeper sensitivity toward others who are hurting in a similar way. It can also help us forgive those who have wronged us and cause us to be less judgmental or critical, leading us to the door of God's grace."
Honoring Your Wife..."Promise to tell your wife daily what you appreciate about her. Promise yourself, not her, because she might develop expectations and be hurt ifyou forget."
Honoring Your Husband..."As a wife, you need to understand these differences between men and women: By nature, a woman tends to relate to others on a more personal level, while a man tends to be more challenge-and-conquer oriented....A woman finds much of her identity through her relationships, while a man usually finds his identity through his accomplishments....A woman is usually much more in touch with her emotions, but a man is primarily concerned with the 'facts.'...The average woman speaks nearly 25,000 words a day, while the average man speaks only around 12,500!"
Honoring God..."We know Christ is at the center of our relationships with others when negative emotions such as anger, hurt feelings, lust, and worry no longer control our lives."
Keeping Alive Romance and Security..."A marriage needs security to grow and thrive. To use a differentanalogy, the first structural support that holds up a meaningfulrelationship is found in that one word - security."
Finding Treasures in Trials..."No one likes trials, yet no one can escape them. We can let them ruinour lives-making us bitter, angry, and resentful-or we can look for thetreasure that will let us love and serve others."
Honoring Your Wife..."Promise to tell your wife daily what you appreciate about her. Promise yourself, not her, because she might develop expectations and be hurt if you forget."
Honoring Your Husband..."As a wife, you and your marriage will experience less stress if you understand that men tend to be challenge-oriented and often lose interest once they've "conquered" or met the challenge. That's why theycan be so romantic before marriage and afterward show little interest in romance."
Loving Actions creative ways to show your love and strengthen your marriage
How to be your wife's best friend:Learn the names of her friends and associates.
* * *How to be your husband's best friend:Be aware of his vision or goals and affirm them.
How to be your wife's best friend: Write her a love letter.
* * *How to be your husband's best friend:Do a crossword puzzle together.
How to be your wife's best friend:Select a charity you both support and make a special year-end gift in honor or memory of a person you both love(d).
* * *How to be your husband's best friend:Buy him some new clothes and wrap them as an "unbirthday" surprise.
Honoring Your Wife..."Husbands should realize that the words they speak to their wives have awesome power to build up or tear down emotionally. Affirming words are like light switches. To speak a word of affirmation at the right momentis like lighting up a whole roomful of possibilities."
Learning to Communicate..."An emotional word picture is a communication tool that uses a story orobject to activate simultaneously the emotions and the intellect of aperson. In so doing, it causes the person to experience our words, notjust hear them. A simple example of a word picture would be, 'My week so far has made me feel like a puppy picked up by the scruff of itsneck, because I feel carried along by circumstances beyond my control.'
The communication bridge between you and your spouse can be an emotional word picture, which can be a tremendous help in adding depth and impact to you conversations."
Increasing Your Intimacy 100 Percent..."It's crucial that we develop healthy relationships. Doctors have found that tension from a poor marriage or friendship can actually cause illness and shorten a person's life! Not only that, but our children also gain or suffer from the model we provide them every day."
Tuesday, November 16, 2004
QUOTE COLLECTION:
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No man or woman of the humblest sort can really be strong, gentle and good, without the world being better for it, without somebody being helped and comforted by the very existence of that goodness.
-- Phillips Brooks (1835-1893) American Bishop
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Life is no brief candle to me. It is sort of a splendid torch which I have got hold of for a moment, and I want to make it burn as brightly as possible before handing it on to future generations.
-- George Bernard Shaw (1856-1950) Irish Playwright
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The work an unknown good man has done is like a vein of water flowing hidden underground, secretly making the ground green.
-- Thomas Carlyle (1795-1881) Scottish Writer
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Nature does not bestow virtue; to be good is an art.
-- Seneca
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I run great risk of failing. It may be that I shall encounter ruin where I look for reputation and a career of honor. The chances are perhaps more in favour of ruin than of success. But, whatever may be the chances, I shall go on as long as any means of carrying on the fight are at my disposal.
-- Anthony Trollope (1815-1882) English Novelist
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People are always blaming their circumstances for what they are. I don't believe in circumstances. The people who get on in this world are the people who get up and look for the circumstances they want, and, if they can't find them, make them.
-- George Bernard Shaw (1856-1950) Irish Playwright
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In order to discover new lands, one must be willing to lose sight of the shore for a very long time.
-- Andre Gide (1869–1951) French Writer
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Resentment is like drinking poison and waiting for the other personto die.
-- Carrie Fisher
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Nobody grows old merely by living a number of years. We grow old by deserting our ideals.
-- Samuel Ullman
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It is a glorious achievement to master one's own temper.
-- Anonymous
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Babe Ruth hit more home runs than anyone; he also struck out more often than anyone.
-- Anonymous
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A mother should give her children a superabundance of enthusiasm, that after they have lost all they are sure to lose in mixing with the world, enough may still remain to prompt and support them throughgreat actions.
-- Julius C. Hare (1795-1855) English Cleric
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It's time to start living the life you've imagined.
-- Henry James
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There are obviously two educations. One should teach us how to make a living and the other how to live.
-- James Truslow Adams
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You can find on the outside only what you posess on the inside.
-- Adolfo Montiel Ballesteros
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Waste your money and you're only out of money, but waste your time and you've lost part of your life.
-- Michael Leboeuf
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Blessed is he who carries within himself a God, an ideal, and obeys it.
-- Louis Pasteur (1822-1895) French Scientist
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The world is good-natured to people who are good natured.
-- William Makepeace Thackeray
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The hero is the one who kindles a great light in the world, who sets up blazing torches in the dark streets of life for men to see by. The saint is the man who walks through the dark paths of the world, himself a light.
-- Felix Adler
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Courage is the greatest of all the virtues. Because if you haven't courage, you may not have an opportunity to use any of the others.
-- Samuel Johnson (1709-1784) English Author
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Originality and the feeling of one's own dignity are achieved only through work and struggle.
-- Fyodor Dostoyevsky (1821-1881) Russian Novelist
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Remember that if the opportunities for great deeds should never come,the opportunities for good deeds are renewed day by day. The thing for us to long for is the goodness, not the glory.
-- F.W. Faber
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If you press me to say why I loved him, I can say no more than because he was he, and I was I.
-- Michel de Montaigne
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"But try," you urge, "the trying shall suffice; The aim, if reachedor not, makes great the life: Try to be Shakespeare, leave the rest to fate!"
-- Robert Browning
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Courtesy is simply doing unto others what you would like them to do unto you.
-- Anonymous
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Perseverance is a great element of success. If you only knock long enough at the gate, you are sure to wake up somebody.
-- Longfellow
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The greatest glory is not in never falling but in rising up everytime we fall.
-- Confucius (551-479 BC) Chinese Philosopher
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I think I'd like to be remembered as someone who beat the odds through just plain determination. ... that I persevered. Because I think that being somewhat of a pest to life, constantly plaguing and pursuing, will bring results.
-- Sylvester Stallone (1946-) American Actor
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All high achievers plan their work and work their plan, for they are keenly aware that "luck" is most often being prepared to take advantage of a situation.
-- Unknown
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Attitude determines altitude.
-- Unknown
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It is better by noble boldness to run the risk of being subject to half the evils we anticipate than to remain in cowardly listlessness for fear of what might happen.
-- Herodotus (485 - 425BC) Greek Historian
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I have always been delighted at the prospect of a new day, a freshtry, one more start, with perhaps a bit of magic waiting somewhere behind the morning.
-- J.B. Priestly (1894-1984) English Author
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Let us move on, and step out boldly, though it be into the night, and we can scarcely see the way.
-- Charles B. Newcomb
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Rely on the ordinary virtues that intelligent, balanced human beingshave relied on for centuries: common sense, thrift, realistic expectations, patience, and perseverance.
-- John C. Bogle (1929-) American Investor
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The person who says it cannot be done should not interrupt the persondoing it.
-- Chinese proverb
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The young do not know enough to be prudent, and therefore they attempt the impossible -- and achieve it, generation aftergeneration.
-- Pearl S. Buck (1892-1973) American Writer
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There are many ways to measure success; not the least of which is the way your child describes you when talking to a friend.
-- Unknown
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A friend hears the song in my heart and sings it to me when my memory fails.
-- Unknown
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Failure is only postponed success as long as courage "coaches"ambition. The habit of persistence is the habit of victory.
-- Herbert Kaufman
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Tis the business of little minds to shrink, but he whose heart is firm, and whose conscience approves his conduct, will pursue his principles unto death.
-- Thomas Paine (1737-1809) British-American Writer
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Not a day passes over this earth but men and women of note do greatdeeds, speak great words and suffer noble sorrows.
-- Charles Reed
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Pain nourishes courage. You can't be brave if you've only had wonderful things happen to you.
-- Mary Tyler Moore (1937-) American Actress
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Making the decision to have a child - it's momentous. It is to decide forever to have your heart go walking around outside your body.
-- Elizabeth Stone
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All I would tell people is to hold onto what was individual about themselves, not to allow their ambition for success to cause them to try to imitate the success of others. You've got to find it on your own terms.
-- Harrison Ford (1942-) American Actor
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Anyone can sympathize with the sufferings of a friend, but it requires a very fine nature to sympathize with a friend's success.
-- Oscar Wilde (1854-1900) Irish Dramatist and Poet
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Courage is grace under pressure.
-- Ernest Hemingway (1899-1961) American Writer
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There is much satisfaction in work well done, but there can be nohappiness equal to the joy of finding a heart that understands.
-- Victor Robinsoll
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Character may be manifested in the great moments, but it is made in the small ones.
-- Phillips Brooks (1835-1893) American Bishop
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True religion is the life we lead, not the creed we profess.
-- Louis Nizer (1902-1994) American Lawyer
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To live at this time is an inestimable privilege, and a sacred obligation devolves upon you to make right use of your opportunities.
-- Grenville Kleiser (1868-1953) American Author
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A prudent man will think more important what fate has conceded to him, than what it has denied.
-- Baltasar Gracian (1601-1658) Spanish Philosopher
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He is a man of sense who does not grieve for what he has not, but rejoices in what he has.
-- Epictetus (55-135 AD) Roman Philosopher
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If I have ever made any valuable discoveries, it has been owing moreto patient attention than to any other talent.
-- Isaac Newton (1642-1727) English Scientist
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I think the purpose of life is to be useful, to be responsible, to be honorable, to be compassionate. It is, after all, to matter: to count, to stand for something, to have made some difference that you lived at all.
-- Leo C. Rosten (1908-1977) American Writer
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No man or woman of the humblest sort can really be strong, gentle and good, without the world being better for it, without somebody being helped and comforted by the very existence of that goodness.
-- Phillips Brooks (1835-1893) American Bishop
-----------------------------
Life is no brief candle to me. It is sort of a splendid torch which I have got hold of for a moment, and I want to make it burn as brightly as possible before handing it on to future generations.
-- George Bernard Shaw (1856-1950) Irish Playwright
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The work an unknown good man has done is like a vein of water flowing hidden underground, secretly making the ground green.
-- Thomas Carlyle (1795-1881) Scottish Writer
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Nature does not bestow virtue; to be good is an art.
-- Seneca
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I run great risk of failing. It may be that I shall encounter ruin where I look for reputation and a career of honor. The chances are perhaps more in favour of ruin than of success. But, whatever may be the chances, I shall go on as long as any means of carrying on the fight are at my disposal.
-- Anthony Trollope (1815-1882) English Novelist
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People are always blaming their circumstances for what they are. I don't believe in circumstances. The people who get on in this world are the people who get up and look for the circumstances they want, and, if they can't find them, make them.
-- George Bernard Shaw (1856-1950) Irish Playwright
-----------------------------
In order to discover new lands, one must be willing to lose sight of the shore for a very long time.
-- Andre Gide (1869–1951) French Writer
-----------------------------
Resentment is like drinking poison and waiting for the other personto die.
-- Carrie Fisher
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Nobody grows old merely by living a number of years. We grow old by deserting our ideals.
-- Samuel Ullman
-----------------------------
It is a glorious achievement to master one's own temper.
-- Anonymous
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Babe Ruth hit more home runs than anyone; he also struck out more often than anyone.
-- Anonymous
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A mother should give her children a superabundance of enthusiasm, that after they have lost all they are sure to lose in mixing with the world, enough may still remain to prompt and support them throughgreat actions.
-- Julius C. Hare (1795-1855) English Cleric
-----------------------------
It's time to start living the life you've imagined.
-- Henry James
-----------------------------
There are obviously two educations. One should teach us how to make a living and the other how to live.
-- James Truslow Adams
-----------------------------
You can find on the outside only what you posess on the inside.
-- Adolfo Montiel Ballesteros
-----------------------------
Waste your money and you're only out of money, but waste your time and you've lost part of your life.
-- Michael Leboeuf
-----------------------------
Blessed is he who carries within himself a God, an ideal, and obeys it.
-- Louis Pasteur (1822-1895) French Scientist
-----------------------------
The world is good-natured to people who are good natured.
-- William Makepeace Thackeray
-----------------------------
The hero is the one who kindles a great light in the world, who sets up blazing torches in the dark streets of life for men to see by. The saint is the man who walks through the dark paths of the world, himself a light.
-- Felix Adler
-----------------------------
Courage is the greatest of all the virtues. Because if you haven't courage, you may not have an opportunity to use any of the others.
-- Samuel Johnson (1709-1784) English Author
-----------------------------
Originality and the feeling of one's own dignity are achieved only through work and struggle.
-- Fyodor Dostoyevsky (1821-1881) Russian Novelist
-----------------------------
Remember that if the opportunities for great deeds should never come,the opportunities for good deeds are renewed day by day. The thing for us to long for is the goodness, not the glory.
-- F.W. Faber
-----------------------------
If you press me to say why I loved him, I can say no more than because he was he, and I was I.
-- Michel de Montaigne
-----------------------------
"But try," you urge, "the trying shall suffice; The aim, if reachedor not, makes great the life: Try to be Shakespeare, leave the rest to fate!"
-- Robert Browning
-----------------------------
Courtesy is simply doing unto others what you would like them to do unto you.
-- Anonymous
-----------------------------
Perseverance is a great element of success. If you only knock long enough at the gate, you are sure to wake up somebody.
-- Longfellow
-----------------------------
The greatest glory is not in never falling but in rising up everytime we fall.
-- Confucius (551-479 BC) Chinese Philosopher
-----------------------------
I think I'd like to be remembered as someone who beat the odds through just plain determination. ... that I persevered. Because I think that being somewhat of a pest to life, constantly plaguing and pursuing, will bring results.
-- Sylvester Stallone (1946-) American Actor
-----------------------------
All high achievers plan their work and work their plan, for they are keenly aware that "luck" is most often being prepared to take advantage of a situation.
-- Unknown
-----------------------------
Attitude determines altitude.
-- Unknown
-----------------------------
It is better by noble boldness to run the risk of being subject to half the evils we anticipate than to remain in cowardly listlessness for fear of what might happen.
-- Herodotus (485 - 425BC) Greek Historian
-----------------------------
I have always been delighted at the prospect of a new day, a freshtry, one more start, with perhaps a bit of magic waiting somewhere behind the morning.
-- J.B. Priestly (1894-1984) English Author
-----------------------------
Let us move on, and step out boldly, though it be into the night, and we can scarcely see the way.
-- Charles B. Newcomb
-----------------------------
Rely on the ordinary virtues that intelligent, balanced human beingshave relied on for centuries: common sense, thrift, realistic expectations, patience, and perseverance.
-- John C. Bogle (1929-) American Investor
-----------------------------
The person who says it cannot be done should not interrupt the persondoing it.
-- Chinese proverb
-----------------------------
The young do not know enough to be prudent, and therefore they attempt the impossible -- and achieve it, generation aftergeneration.
-- Pearl S. Buck (1892-1973) American Writer
-----------------------------
There are many ways to measure success; not the least of which is the way your child describes you when talking to a friend.
-- Unknown
-----------------------------
A friend hears the song in my heart and sings it to me when my memory fails.
-- Unknown
-----------------------------
Failure is only postponed success as long as courage "coaches"ambition. The habit of persistence is the habit of victory.
-- Herbert Kaufman
-----------------------------
Tis the business of little minds to shrink, but he whose heart is firm, and whose conscience approves his conduct, will pursue his principles unto death.
-- Thomas Paine (1737-1809) British-American Writer
-----------------------------
Not a day passes over this earth but men and women of note do greatdeeds, speak great words and suffer noble sorrows.
-- Charles Reed
-----------------------------
Pain nourishes courage. You can't be brave if you've only had wonderful things happen to you.
-- Mary Tyler Moore (1937-) American Actress
**************************
Making the decision to have a child - it's momentous. It is to decide forever to have your heart go walking around outside your body.
-- Elizabeth Stone
-----------------------------
All I would tell people is to hold onto what was individual about themselves, not to allow their ambition for success to cause them to try to imitate the success of others. You've got to find it on your own terms.
-- Harrison Ford (1942-) American Actor
-----------------------------
Anyone can sympathize with the sufferings of a friend, but it requires a very fine nature to sympathize with a friend's success.
-- Oscar Wilde (1854-1900) Irish Dramatist and Poet
-----------------------------
Courage is grace under pressure.
-- Ernest Hemingway (1899-1961) American Writer
-----------------------------
There is much satisfaction in work well done, but there can be nohappiness equal to the joy of finding a heart that understands.
-- Victor Robinsoll
-----------------------------
Character may be manifested in the great moments, but it is made in the small ones.
-- Phillips Brooks (1835-1893) American Bishop
-----------------------------
True religion is the life we lead, not the creed we profess.
-- Louis Nizer (1902-1994) American Lawyer
-----------------------------
To live at this time is an inestimable privilege, and a sacred obligation devolves upon you to make right use of your opportunities.
-- Grenville Kleiser (1868-1953) American Author
-----------------------------
A prudent man will think more important what fate has conceded to him, than what it has denied.
-- Baltasar Gracian (1601-1658) Spanish Philosopher
-----------------------------
He is a man of sense who does not grieve for what he has not, but rejoices in what he has.
-- Epictetus (55-135 AD) Roman Philosopher
-----------------------------
If I have ever made any valuable discoveries, it has been owing moreto patient attention than to any other talent.
-- Isaac Newton (1642-1727) English Scientist
-----------------------------
I think the purpose of life is to be useful, to be responsible, to be honorable, to be compassionate. It is, after all, to matter: to count, to stand for something, to have made some difference that you lived at all.
-- Leo C. Rosten (1908-1977) American Writer
LOVING ACTIONS! From "It Takes Two to Tango" by Gary and Norma Smalley
Resolving Conflict and Dealing with Anger...Survey after survey shows that the number one reason for mate selectionis the differences between individuals. But differences can become adevastating source of conflict in a marriage. Learning to recognize andvalue each other's perspectives is one of the most positive things we can do.
Increasing Your Intimacy 100 Percent...Life is more predictable--more secure and stable--when you know that both of you are working toward a loving, lasting relationship. This is the foundation for true intimacy.
Honoring Your Husband...Men need to kow their advice is valuable. You welcome your husband's advice by...- putting aside all other interests and giving him your full attention.- focusing your eyes on him as he speaks.- pointing out positive or helpful aspects of his advice.- letting him have the floor until he has fully expressed his opinion.- thanking him for the time he spent offering his advice.
How to be your wife's best friend:Talk about problems.
* * *How to be your husband's best friend:Go on a weekend marriage enrichment conference together.
How to be your wife's best friend:Go to the zoo together.* * *How to be your husband's best friend:Rent his favorite video.
How to be your wife's best friend:Hold her hand in public.* * *How to be your husband's best friend:After you make up from a disagreement, bake him his favorite dessert.
How to be your wife's best friend:Say, "When you do .... I feel .... "* * *How to be your husband's best friend:When he gives you a gift of clothing, wear it.
How to be your wife's best friend:Choose a week in the not-so-distant future and purpose not to watch any tv. Take the time that would normally be spent watching the tube, and spend it with her doing what she wants.* * *How to be your husband's best friend:Go out for coffee together
How to be your wife's best friend:Kidnap her for a walk through a nature trail or park.* * *How to be your husband's best friend:Play in the snow and have a snowball fight.
How to be your wife's best friend:Learn the names of her friends and associates.* * *How to be your husband's best friend:Be aware of his vision or goals and affirm them.
How to be your wife's best friend:Keep her picture in your wallet. * * *How to be your husband's best friend:Rent a video of a movie that was popular in college.
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Leadership That Frees
Wives, in the same way be submissive to your husbands so that, if any of them do not believe the word, they may be won over without words by thebehavior of their wives, when they see the purity and reverence of your lives.1 Peter 3:1-2
"I am having a real problem with something that I need input from you guys," said the lady in our fellowship group. "My husband wants to makea major purchase that I am opposed to. We cannot afford it right now. Iunderstand what the Bible says about headship in the home, but what do I do when I totally disagree with his decision?" The men in the grouplooked at each other, realizing the sensitive nature of such a question,especially in today's society.
Then someone said, "You really only have a few options if you adhere to the principle that God has entrusted the man as the leader in the home. God has placed you under the umbrella of His protection as well as your husband. There are times when he will not make the right decision. Does that mean God is not protecting you? No. There may be several things working here. God may be testing your own obedience to this principle.He may use you to open up your husband's spiritual life due to your obedience and submissive spirit. Your obedience may cost your family something, but it will be beneficial in the long term. Your alternative is to rebel and pay him back for his decision by withholding your love from him, which is often what a wife does in this situation. It becomes a vicious circle of paybacks. My suggestion is to tell your husband how you feel about his decision and the impact you feel it will have on you and your family. If he still wants to make the purchase, you must let him do it and support him. What happens next will rest in God's hand as your ultimate protector."
A few weeks later our sister in Christ came to our meeting. "I have somewonderful news. We did make the purchase. However, we were able to make it in such a way that we did not go into debt and I was able to support my husband. I have already seen a change in his attitude toward me by the way I responded to him in this. It has been a real lesson for me. I see him much more open to spiritual things since I made this decision and supported him, even though I disagreed with it."
God has made man and woman equal in His sight. Yet He has given each a different role to play in marriage. Husbands must answer to God fortheir leadership in the home. They will be judged for that leadership.When a wife submits to that leadership, God protects her from wrong decisions of that husband, although sometimes it may not appear that way at first.You can trust God to protect you in your decisions that are made in obedience to His Word.The one who calls you is faithful and He will do it (1 Thessalonians5:24).
T O D A Y G O D I S F I R S T
Marketplace Meditations by Os Hillman
Resolving Conflict and Dealing with Anger...Survey after survey shows that the number one reason for mate selectionis the differences between individuals. But differences can become adevastating source of conflict in a marriage. Learning to recognize andvalue each other's perspectives is one of the most positive things we can do.
Increasing Your Intimacy 100 Percent...Life is more predictable--more secure and stable--when you know that both of you are working toward a loving, lasting relationship. This is the foundation for true intimacy.
Honoring Your Husband...Men need to kow their advice is valuable. You welcome your husband's advice by...- putting aside all other interests and giving him your full attention.- focusing your eyes on him as he speaks.- pointing out positive or helpful aspects of his advice.- letting him have the floor until he has fully expressed his opinion.- thanking him for the time he spent offering his advice.
How to be your wife's best friend:Talk about problems.
* * *How to be your husband's best friend:Go on a weekend marriage enrichment conference together.
How to be your wife's best friend:Go to the zoo together.* * *How to be your husband's best friend:Rent his favorite video.
How to be your wife's best friend:Hold her hand in public.* * *How to be your husband's best friend:After you make up from a disagreement, bake him his favorite dessert.
How to be your wife's best friend:Say, "When you do .... I feel .... "* * *How to be your husband's best friend:When he gives you a gift of clothing, wear it.
How to be your wife's best friend:Choose a week in the not-so-distant future and purpose not to watch any tv. Take the time that would normally be spent watching the tube, and spend it with her doing what she wants.* * *How to be your husband's best friend:Go out for coffee together
How to be your wife's best friend:Kidnap her for a walk through a nature trail or park.* * *How to be your husband's best friend:Play in the snow and have a snowball fight.
How to be your wife's best friend:Learn the names of her friends and associates.* * *How to be your husband's best friend:Be aware of his vision or goals and affirm them.
How to be your wife's best friend:Keep her picture in your wallet. * * *How to be your husband's best friend:Rent a video of a movie that was popular in college.
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Leadership That Frees
Wives, in the same way be submissive to your husbands so that, if any of them do not believe the word, they may be won over without words by thebehavior of their wives, when they see the purity and reverence of your lives.1 Peter 3:1-2
"I am having a real problem with something that I need input from you guys," said the lady in our fellowship group. "My husband wants to makea major purchase that I am opposed to. We cannot afford it right now. Iunderstand what the Bible says about headship in the home, but what do I do when I totally disagree with his decision?" The men in the grouplooked at each other, realizing the sensitive nature of such a question,especially in today's society.
Then someone said, "You really only have a few options if you adhere to the principle that God has entrusted the man as the leader in the home. God has placed you under the umbrella of His protection as well as your husband. There are times when he will not make the right decision. Does that mean God is not protecting you? No. There may be several things working here. God may be testing your own obedience to this principle.He may use you to open up your husband's spiritual life due to your obedience and submissive spirit. Your obedience may cost your family something, but it will be beneficial in the long term. Your alternative is to rebel and pay him back for his decision by withholding your love from him, which is often what a wife does in this situation. It becomes a vicious circle of paybacks. My suggestion is to tell your husband how you feel about his decision and the impact you feel it will have on you and your family. If he still wants to make the purchase, you must let him do it and support him. What happens next will rest in God's hand as your ultimate protector."
A few weeks later our sister in Christ came to our meeting. "I have somewonderful news. We did make the purchase. However, we were able to make it in such a way that we did not go into debt and I was able to support my husband. I have already seen a change in his attitude toward me by the way I responded to him in this. It has been a real lesson for me. I see him much more open to spiritual things since I made this decision and supported him, even though I disagreed with it."
God has made man and woman equal in His sight. Yet He has given each a different role to play in marriage. Husbands must answer to God fortheir leadership in the home. They will be judged for that leadership.When a wife submits to that leadership, God protects her from wrong decisions of that husband, although sometimes it may not appear that way at first.You can trust God to protect you in your decisions that are made in obedience to His Word.The one who calls you is faithful and He will do it (1 Thessalonians5:24).
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